Haven't received oral in 2 years

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Registered: 07-04-2008
Haven't received oral in 2 years
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Fri, 04-03-2009 - 5:23pm

Hello,

I am new to this board, but I really need some insight. I have been with my df for nearly 3 years, but haven't gotten oral in two. Our sex life besides that is fine! lol and that is why I am so confused and kind of throwing my hands in the air at this point.

Our life together took a huge hit when he became unemployed. Due to extenuating circumstances, we lost all of our savings, and now are in poverty. It could be worse, don't get me wrong, but at the end of the day, I just really want to be with him and for us to comfort each other.

Well, we are good at that, except I MISS ORAL SEX. We have talked about it, and for the longest time, he has told me it's not about me, but that he just doesn't "feel like it" anymore.

At first, he hated the odor, but I fixed that and it was all good lol (I actually had an infection from latex condoms). Then over time, it just dwindled to the point where I would have to beg for it, which wasn't sexy, and then I just gave up.

Now, it's such a habit (me not getting it), that I just gave up. I try to give him b.j.'s and everything (and he enjoys them), but I still don't get my fair share. I don't think his excuse is good enough.

Oral isn't even my favorite thing to do, but what used to be a small problem has just ballooned. Now I cry about it, but he insists it isn't me.

Ugh, I think that the added stress has taken our urge away to even try anymore. Does anyone have any suggestions for me?? Thank you!!

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sun, 04-05-2009 - 9:50am

The only thing you can do is continue talking to him about it, let him know that you do miss it.


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Registered: 07-04-2008
Sun, 04-05-2009 - 9:09pm

Thank you for replying to my post!

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Registered: 03-06-2007
Mon, 04-06-2009 - 1:02pm

Welcome to the Oral Board sunshinelove519 :)


I have to agree with Tish completely,

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Wed, 04-08-2009 - 2:05pm

Hi SL,


As I think back on things, the best sex my DW and I probably ever had was when we were strapped financially when we first got married. At least it took our minds off the stress and worry about how we were going to make all our monthly bill commitments. For him to just single out the oral as something he's not willing to do for you, I agree with the other posters that he has an emotional hang up about it. You're absolutely positive your prior issues with the vaginal odor has been taken care of? Is that him telling you that, or have you checked yourself to make certain it smells like a bed of roses? I can't speak for your man, but most guys would be thrilled to give their woman all the oral they could if they knew she was more than willing to want it performed on her. I hope things improve soon for you both.


mwm


...did I really refer to it as a bed of roses? OMG.....sorry....