he loves to GET hates to GIVE

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Registered: 10-18-2008
he loves to GET hates to GIVE
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Fri, 05-01-2009 - 7:04am

we talked about this last nite and he loves oral (of course) but doesn't like to give it.

i'm not into selfish partners (although the rest of his foreplay is amazing incl. massages) and i LOVE getting oral probably more than intercourse. so now i'm wondering if i should just break it off now within the first few dates or what

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Fri, 05-01-2009 - 12:13pm

Welcome to the Oral Board elleinfirenze :)


I think that is great that you actually had a

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 05-01-2009 - 1:31pm

I agree with Scooter, only you know if no oral is a deal breaker for you.


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Fri, 05-01-2009 - 4:34pm

I agree with both of the

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Registered: 10-18-2008
Sat, 05-02-2009 - 7:27am

thanx guys.

we talked again yesterday and he told me he has only tried a few times and feel self conscious like he's not doing it right but if it's important to me he'll "suck my !@$$% for 5 hours". so... that's nice of him :) lol

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Mon, 05-04-2009 - 1:20pm
That's great elleinfirenze!
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Wed, 05-06-2009 - 1:51pm

Glad to see he's willing to give it another try. I like to give and receive. There are pleasures to be sure from helping a guy feel good. But there are definitely pleasures to be enjoyed from being pleasured as well.


I know a lot of guys who are seem selfish because they want it, but won't reciprocate. But most of these guys are like yours - they are afraid they won't perform adequately. It's amazing how self-conscious they can be.


Most of them aren't afraid to let me know when the like something or put their hands on my head to make me take it deeper or faster. But they are afraid that if they do something wrong I will just jump out of bed and never see them again, instead of giving them some gentle guidance as well.


I don't know how to solve this issue. It seems like it is just a part of being a guy I guess. Some gentle reassurances that they will do great should help.


It's funny cuz the only other excuse for not giving a girl oral is usually taste - but more girls are said to taste "sweet" while guys have a generally musky taste with a bitter aftertaste. So what's up with that.


Oh well, I hope this

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