I GIVE but DON'T RECIEVE AAHH!

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Registered: 08-17-2007
I GIVE but DON'T RECIEVE AAHH!
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Fri, 08-01-2008 - 1:30pm

My BF & I are going on 2 yrs now & hands down I'm the more sexually frisky one. He's 23 & i just turned 30 & really feeling a spike in my sexual drive. I love giving him oral & he's told me I'm the best he's ever had (which makes me sooo happy) but what makes me really unhappy is that he never returns the favor (never even tries)he'll manually do it he's pretty good with his fingers but there's only so much of that a girl can take cause now i'm bored (& i don't want to hurt his feelings by saying so, we really love each other)I've tried getting to the root of the issue by asking him if he had a bad experience he just tells me that he doesn't like it. But the way i see it is that since he's only had the experience with 1 girl he shouldn't write it off completely i mean we're all different & i'm dying here.I keep thinking maybe he's not confident that he'll do it right & i've never had to teach anyone but i don't know if i should offer that to him, he might get offended. I devised an idea & asked him if he would touch-up "the little lady" with a shave (which i'm going out on a limb with that because i usually get waxed) i was just thinking maybe that would be a good way that he could get acquainted with that area (well he never txt'd back)i've never experienced this problem & i miss getting oral & i'm frustrated

Can anyone give me new suggestions... i'm open to them all please no sarcasm!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2007
Fri, 08-01-2008 - 3:47pm

There could be so many reasons why your bf doesn't want to give you oral.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-24-2008
Fri, 08-01-2008 - 4:08pm

Your situation is a tough one because you dont want to force someone to do something they dont want to do...yet...you want to get your needs fulfilled.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-03-2008
Sat, 08-02-2008 - 7:05pm

I know what you mean.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2007
Sun, 08-03-2008 - 5:53pm
Welcome to the Oral Board Soccer Star :)


iVillage Member
Registered: 05-24-2007
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 1:14am

Ah mi latina !

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-13-2007
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 10:16am
Yeah I am in a similar boat I give ALL the time.
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Registered: 06-04-2004
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 1:22pm
I understand. In our case the roles are reversed. I give her head and I rarely get a nibble.
The last time I got it I was very forward about it. We were hot and heavy I was manually stimulating her clitoris while she was squeezing her breasts. I just got in position where I was on my knees by her head and just put my penis up to her lips. The it seems like a automatic response from the lust she was in she just took me into her mouth and started sucking. Maybe you could use a similar approach buy guiding his head down to your clitoris. Maybe also making sure that there is nothing for him to object about so be cleaned up and ready to go. In my case I don't mind if she is not perfumed and pristine. I will clean that up for her.
Just some background it took me 3 years to get her to even let me try cunninglingus on her. She had a bad experience from a previous lover. Now She lives for it. Except we are still working on returning the favor.
Best of luck to you.



-Gerry-






-Gerry-






iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2007
Tue, 08-05-2008 - 11:42am
Hey Size,

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Registered: 04-13-2007
Wed, 08-06-2008 - 2:42pm
Thanks for the concern, but I'm very happy in our relationship overall. The guy is so amazing -- overall not selfish or greedy at all. We went on holiday to New England last weekend and had such a good time. He's very challenging and smart. His one hangup is that he LIVES on blowjobs lol.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2007
Wed, 08-06-2008 - 4:31pm
That is so great to hear because your posts made me a little concerned and a little red flag went up!!