Married 20+ years and get no oral, so frustrated!

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Registered: 12-03-2006
Married 20+ years and get no oral, so frustrated!
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Sun, 06-19-2011 - 11:09am

Hi, ok I am a regular guy, married 20 plus years and get no oral sex at all.

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Registered: 05-14-2010

Learn massage and get good at it!

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Registered: 05-20-2007

I'm not sure if you can teach an old dog new tricks (no offence intended),

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Registered: 12-03-2006

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Registered: 08-01-2006

Has she ever done oral on you? Why, after all these years, is it bothering you? If she has done it and doesn't like it, I'm not sure if there is anything you can do to change her mind. Have you promised to not get off in her mouth? You'll let her know prior to getting off so she can remove you from her mouth and finishing with a hand job?



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Registered: 12-03-2006

Has she ever?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-20-2008

I am in exactly the same situation after 15 years of marriage. I have also tried everything (the trim, offer oral sex for her, etc etc etc). NO luck and although I haven't given up, I don't think it will happen at all. I have now come to a point where I will most likely accept 'outsourcing'. I believe I've met someone nice and discreet who is willing to have oral sex with me. In the past I would have said no, but it becomes harder and harder (pun?) to say no.

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Registered: 11-07-2007

Guys I was in the same boat with my ex who loved getting a bj but did not like giving oral himself.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-01-2006

She could just be one of those women that do not like oral. Do you perform oral on her?

After all these years, and you never brought it up with her in a conversation, outside the bedroom, of course? Why not?



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Registered: 08-01-2006

Like I asked the OP, have you tried talking to her about this? Did she ever perform oral? Did she have a bad experience, that you know about? Have you said that you wouldn't get off in her mouth?



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Registered: 06-07-2011
that is brutal. i was married for 17 years and during the last third of it, there was hardly a blojob in sight, and certianly never one delivered with gusto. in the 3 years since i was separated, i have dated about dozen women, who have ranged from good fellatrixes to simply top experts. it has been like being reborn. all of them have gladly swallowed, gotten facialed happily, etc. it would be really tough to never get one. the problem is, it's a bit like the proverbial genie and the bottle. once you get some really good ones from enthusiastic partners, not getting them would be unacceptable. i feel your pain and hope you can solve the problem.

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