My husband doesn't like going down on me

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Registered: 03-22-2014
My husband doesn't like going down on me
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Wed, 08-27-2014 - 5:06pm

I've been married to my husband for 3 years (together for 4 1/2). He likes vanilla sex but I like to be a little more adventurous. In the whole time we have been together he has gone down on me twice. Now our sex life is starting to stagnate a little I would love for him to go down. I have always had the higher sex drive and he tends to be a little on the quick side though he is VWE. I am fully waxed (which is his preference) and don't taste unpleasant (I have no problem licking my cum off him so I do know exactly what it tastes like). Following some marital problems (based on lack of intimacy) we are about to go on holiday for a week and I'd love some sex tips, of how to spice things up but mainly of what I can do to encourage him to go down on me. I love going down on him and really don't know what the problem is :-( I understand that it's possible that he just doesn't like it but feel he's never really tried so would like to encourage him. If he tries and really doesn't like it I obviously wouldn't want to force him to do something he doesn't want to

Any advice much appreciated :-)

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Registered: 06-14-2002
Wed, 09-10-2014 - 3:39pm

As a man who enjoys going down on my DW let me offer a few suggestions. First talk to him outside the bedroom (preferably in a non-sexual environment) and tell him how much you would enjoy him going down on you and see if you can get out of him why he doesn't want to try it. It could be that he is worried that he doesn't know what to do and you wouldn't like what he did or he could be worried about what happens if you have an orgasm while he is down there. He could also be worried about other tastes (urine). You can offer to shower with him so that he knows you are clean. It may be too that it is a turn off for him and if that is the case, you have to accept his position. My DW will go down on me but won't take me all the way. It has been that way for 23 years. I have accepted that and I have moved past that.

CH

PS I also posted this on the Married Secrets forum too