need some pointers from males

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Registered: 06-03-2009
need some pointers from males
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Wed, 06-03-2009 - 12:13am

What exactly turns you on during oral? I'm in a new relationship and he doesn't moan or make noise, which bugs me, but he said he's always been like that. He did ask if I ever took lessons on sucking *d..k*. This is a purely sexual relationship.

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Wed, 06-03-2009 - 8:50am

I'm not a guy but I can tell you what things my partner really


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Wed, 06-03-2009 - 12:51pm

First off each and every guy is so different so what one guy likes the next might not.

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Thu, 06-04-2009 - 5:28pm

I have an idea. Instead of demonstrating your technique, demonstrate your enthusiasm. From the beginning of your encounter (or even before), get talking about how much you need him in your mouth. How beautiful his c**k is, how amazing it is to you, how you need to hold it, play with it, feel it on your tongue and in your mouth. Then keep talking and moaning all the way through it. Talk to him about how it feels to you. Heck, talk to it!

A lot of the pleasure of I get in receiving a BJ is the mental experience, and if that ain't happening, technique can't make up the difference. Once you have that going in his head, the technique will take care of itself, IMHO.

Jake

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Thu, 06-04-2009 - 8:57pm

Great advice Jake for women giving and men giving.


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Sat, 06-06-2009 - 12:01am

Thanks Jake, it always helps to get the male prespective. This guy is very quiet during sex, which I hate, but can't do anything about it. He however, gets turned on by moaning and groaning (no problem on my part, I like to express myself). We did discuss doing this before, and I was the one that initated it during sex. So the only thing I don't do, that you suggested, is describe what I'm doing, and let him know how much I enjoy the taste, feel, etc of his c**k in my mouth. Also, looking him in the eye. Usually my eyes are closed, like kissing.


Thanks for the advice. I'll let you know how it works out!


Monika

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Registered: 03-11-2005
Sun, 06-07-2009 - 4:39am

My wife is a blowjob expert. She lubes my penis and gives me a combination blowjob/handjob. The real secret, however, is her using a vibrating anal toy to massage my prostate while she gives me a blowjob. I used to think I would never want any anal on me, but as I began to understand my prostate better I purchased a small vibrating anal toy and asked her to use it on me during a blowjob and WOW what an orgasm. I was hooked. Now we do this every time she gives me a blowjob. I fill her mouth with cum. If he can get over any hangups about anal stimulation he will love it. By the way nothing gay about this.

We have graduated to occasional role reversal using a strap on. We both love this also.

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Registered: 06-07-2009
Sun, 06-07-2009 - 12:07pm

Dear lickit2009,


hi, regarding your query, my point of view is as your screen name suggests

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Registered: 03-06-2007
Mon, 06-08-2009 - 10:49am

Welcome to the Oral Board jake31_1 :)


Great advice and thanks for sharing with us :)