Never Had Oral and Scared

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Registered: 08-03-2007
Never Had Oral and Scared
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Mon, 07-06-2009 - 12:36am

I have been married for 17 years and to a partner that didnt mind recieving oral but never once gave. We are now getting a divorce. In the meantime, I have met someone amazing. When he comes to be with me soon, he wants to give me all the things I never had, and oral is one of them.


I am terrified. First, I am older then he is. Second, I have never had it done on me, and I am not sure how I will handle it. I want to please him, and I dont mind giving him oral, but I am terrified about me.


Any advice?


Thanks!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 07-06-2009 - 7:30am

What exactly has you terrified about receiving?


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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-03-2007
Mon, 07-06-2009 - 10:20am

Thank you for the reply.


Part of my fears stem from the fact that I want to please him. He really wants to do this, and I want him to. I am just afraid of the whole lagistics of it all. What if I can't orgasm because I can't relax and it hurts his feelings? I know that sounds ludacris, but the other scenerio to this issue is that I am older then him by several years. He swears none of that matters to him, and he loves me that he is willing to wait until I am ready.


He is a gift, and I want to embrace him, but I am terrified that I won't be good, or that perhaps I won't taste good. I have never had it and don't really even know how to prepare for it. What do people normally do, I realize you would shower of course, but what else can I do to make this an awesome experience for both of us?


Thank you!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2007
Mon, 07-06-2009 - 10:46am

Welcome to the Oral Board guardianofthemoon :)


My advice to you is don't put so much pressure on having oral done to yourself.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-03-2007
Tue, 07-07-2009 - 7:19pm

Thank you for the wonderful advice. I do plan to just let things happen and try my hardest to relax. The last thing I want is to ruin the experience for either one of us. I am feeling a bit more confident thanks to you two ladies.


iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2007
Wed, 07-08-2009 - 10:29am

You're more then welcome Guardianofthemoon :)


Just relax and enjoy and please do let us know how it goes :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-03-2007
Thu, 07-30-2009 - 9:00pm

Well I wanted to let you know how things went :).

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2007
Fri, 07-31-2009 - 10:56am

Thanks for letting us know how things went with you two :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-03-2007
Fri, 07-31-2009 - 7:51pm

Thanks for the fast reply. When I tasted myself I didnt find that I was overly salty,but yes I am a bit. Secondly, I am only on birth control so I dont think its meds. I do drink water, but probably not as much as I should. Strangely, he actually suggested I drink apple juice, he said it makes you taste more sweet. Is that true? He seems to know more then I do. And yes, he is a WONDERFUL lover. After 17 years of pure hell in a marriage, I deserve this. And am so happy.


iVillage Member
Registered: 07-02-2009
Sat, 08-01-2009 - 4:12pm
I am married for 41 years. My wife does not like oral sex or let me do it on her. Any suggestions to convince her do it on me at least. I like oral sex because
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Registered: 02-12-2008
Mon, 08-03-2009 - 2:53pm
Bless your heart. I for one couldn't be any happier for you. Don't let the "salty" thing bother you, obviously it didn't stop him. Just keep showering before each meeting and enjoy yourself - life is short. I'm sure he feels lucky to have found you.

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