No oral sex???

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Registered: 07-03-2008
No oral sex???
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Fri, 06-12-2009 - 5:37pm
I just have a question...what would be reasons that my dh don't give me oral sex anymore???

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2007
In reply to: tritter77
Fri, 06-12-2009 - 9:55pm

Some men associate oral sex with kinky sex....Some mens boundaries change with life changes. Perhaps he sees you now more as the mother of his child rather than as a woman he would have kinky sex with.....


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Registered: 02-23-2009
In reply to: tritter77
Fri, 06-12-2009 - 10:01pm

Hello there, poor you that must be disapointing. How is the "normal" sex

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Willowhisp


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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: tritter77
Sat, 06-13-2009 - 7:19am

Instead of making comments, have you sat down with him outside the bedroom at a time when you're not being intimate and


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Registered: 07-03-2008
In reply to: tritter77
Sat, 06-13-2009 - 1:21pm
Sex is basically fast and simple. I'm thinking that there might be some issues with how he sees me since the birth of our kids. There is no foreplay and he really doesn't touch my body, he just puts it in and that's it. It's very heartbreaking that he has no interest to change things up or make it more fun....
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Registered: 07-03-2008
In reply to: tritter77
Sat, 06-13-2009 - 1:25pm
We have talked about it outside of the bedroom and we just end up in a fight because he doesn't want to discuss it. Also, I'm extremely hurt that he has no interest in my body whatsoever, I could walk naked in front of him and he just looks at the computer screen. I would love to give my husband oral but he has no interest in receiving it. This bothers me due to the fact that we had great foreplay and he gave me great oral before the kids...
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: tritter77
Sat, 06-13-2009 - 1:55pm

Between your reply to me and your reply to Willow, it


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Registered: 04-02-2009
In reply to: tritter77
Sat, 06-13-2009 - 3:32pm
Now, I'm not much of a believer in therapy, but your husband needs therapy.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-03-2008
In reply to: tritter77
Sat, 06-13-2009 - 4:34pm
From my perspective...all of my problems with our marriage is sex. He provides and is a great father but lacks in the bedroom. Because I know that he can be good and for whatever reason it's just stopped. It's me, I know it is. He's been married before and he told me that his ex would never let him give oral and how he loves to do it blah blah blah...so I know there is something wrong with me and he's too scared to admit it. Thanks for all your advice, I needed it...
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: tritter77
Sat, 06-13-2009 - 5:11pm

From your perspective the only problems in the relationship are with your sex life but is that the way he feels?


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Registered: 02-23-2009
In reply to: tritter77
Sun, 06-14-2009 - 1:57am

Some of this sounds so familiar to me, been down that road. I think you have been given some great advice by everyone here and need to talk it out, if that be with a counciler then go for it. Otherwise it just ends up in blame and denial without knowing what the issue is to begin with.


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