oral sex...he won't go there
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oral sex...he won't go there
| Mon, 04-18-2011 - 7:43pm |
My ex-husband was the best at giving oral sex. New husband won't even go there. We've talked about it (as much as he will) and he said it just won't ever happen.
Every time we fool around my mouth will end up on his penis at some point. I don't want to be mean and deprive him, but what do I do? I've showered right before, I've suggested flavored lubricants, toys, etc. I don't think I can live the rest of my life without receiving oral sex. I'm actually considering having an affair.
Someone help please...
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Keep talking to him.
Did you know prior to getting married that he didn't like this? If you've tried talking to him about it and all he can say is it won't happen, then tell him he will not be getting anymore BJ's until he can give you a good answer as to what he doesn't like about it.
Ok, not very helpful, I suspect, but our motto is "lick it before you stick it".
lickysplt summed it up pretty well.
there is nothing I won't try, and he knows that. I'm pretty adventurous and he is pretty vanilla. so the whole bartering thing is probably not going to happen. before we got married he kept hinting that it might happen someday. still nothing.
i've trimmed, groomed, shaved completely, waxed, plucked, you name it. I've shaved and showered and come to bed...nothing.
i know an affair won't fix anything. i'm just desperate. he won't talk about it. I've asked him point blank if it is the taste or texture or what he objects to and his answer is "yes" as in all of the above. what makes me mad is he doesn't even know what I taste like. am I wrong in assuming that all women are different?
Well, I can't say that no two women have the same smell and taste (though I'd love to participate in the research to find out!), but there is a HUGE variation from woman to woman (and to some extent, day-to-day for each woman).
How about "sneaking" a bit of juice from your vagina to some place his nose or mouth will likely be (nipples, neck)?
Agreed.
Try all the suggestions here, share your fluid, either openly or secretly.
Your and his tastes are different according to your diet and other things. Add a lot of sweet fruits and avoid pungent foods. Look it up on the net.
Maybe you could do that for a week or so, and ask him to try for you. Tell him how much it would mean to you and how you know you would love it. If he does, make a BIG deal of the emotions. I don't think you will have to fake it, just make the reactions BIGGER and let him know how much you enjoy it. Give him the best F**K**G of his life. That may give him the right idea.
All that failing, tell him you don't like the taste of his pecker and won't be sucking it anytime soon.