Ran across a challenge with giving BJ

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Registered: 05-24-2003
Ran across a challenge with giving BJ
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Tue, 09-16-2008 - 11:53am

to my SO. Quick history. We've been together 5 years. He's extremely wordly and experienced. Me?? Not so much. But he loved the way I gave head. Said it was the best he'd ever gotten. I really think that's one reason why he kept me around in the beginning, lol.

ANYWAY, he was in a bad, bad wreck two years ago, and we've been long distance since then. Have only been intimate a handful of times. Now he's moved in with me about a month. We've had sex (oral, he can't do IC anymore) ALMOST every day and/or night since then.

It's been impossible to get him off orally this whole time. I eventually wind up giving him a handjob, which I am not great at, since he always wanted oral before. Or sometimes I ask him to finish because I do like to watch him and it's a learning op for me, right?

Well. This morning, I find out that I've been hurting him with my teeth this whole month. THIS WHOLE MONTH!!!!!! I feel so badly for him. Of course, I chastised him for not telling me sooner and he simply said that he knew I could be sensitive about it (????) and didn't want to hurt my feelings. I said, well, I'm not as sensitive about being corrected as I am about being pulled off because I hurt you and then to find out I've BEEN hurting you for a month!!!!!

So, I tried to do it without my teeth hitting. It's a lot harder than I thought. Of course, he was real sensitive, too. I guess I'd hurt him pretty badly. He wound up bringing himself off and I sucked him as he orgasmed.

So....uh.....any hints??? I asked him if I'd done that before the wreck and he doesn't remember. I asked him if it hurt on top, bottom, or sides, and he couldn't tell me, though judging by the redness, I'm guessing my front teeth were the culprits. Mostly bottom, I think, but clearly the top teeth rubbed him wrong, too.

I knew something wasn't right, now I know specifically. And I will certainly keep trying and practicing and asking for feedback.

But hints from folks here would be great.

Thanks!!!

Lucky

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Registered: 03-06-2007
Tue, 09-16-2008 - 2:39pm

Welcome Luckyme to the Oral Board :)


In reality there is a lot of variation in fellatio skills, and knowing how to read your partner, what to do to him, and when to do it can make all the difference.

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Registered: 11-29-2006
Tue, 09-16-2008 - 4:04pm

D'oh! I had that issue with an ex of mine - I was still very new to oral and had no idea what I was doing, really, but he didn't think to tell me what I was doing wrong, either, untilit got to the point where, as he put it,

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