Scared to DEATH of Swallowing

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Scared to DEATH of Swallowing
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Mon, 08-16-2004 - 10:41am
I've been married for a year and two months. We've been sexually active for two years before that. I love giving him oral sex, but I've never finished it. He used to ask me, BEG me, and he knows how nervous I am about it. Now he doesn't even try to hint at it. I want to try it, but I've got a VERY strong gag reflex and am scared to death about the taste, the feeling, and the amount. Can anyone reassure me that everything will be ok? I just don't want to throw it up on him. Thank you so much for your help on this embarassing subject.
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Mon, 08-16-2004 - 11:27am

As far as the taste, every guy will be different.


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Mon, 08-16-2004 - 1:12pm
I have swallowed a heck of a lot of it over the years. Gallons, probably -- donated by five lucky guys ;-) It won't make you throw up (I have thrown up on a guy once, though -- but that was b/c I was trying to deepthroat at the same time -- SOOOOOOO embarrassing). It can give you a tummy ache once in a great while or if he really blows a huge load. But almost never. I would just try it and see.
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Mon, 08-16-2004 - 6:34pm
You must try it.
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Mon, 08-16-2004 - 6:34pm
Two things to consider:

One, the taste. It's actually not bad, just different, so that's not really a problem. As tish says, you can finish him off manually and try tasting a little from your fingers.

Two, the texture. This is what seems to get most people. Having a couple of teaspoons of gooey, sticky warm stuff squirted forcefully towards the back of your throat at a moment that you can never _quite_ anticipate correctly.

Probably the simplest way is to not let it squirt into the back of your throat. My partner puts the head of my penis in the front of her mouth, grasps the rest of the shaft with her fist, and puts her tongue against the head, blocking the back of her mouth and throat. You could start with one step further, just hold the very tip against your lips, or just between your lips, as he's about to cum so that it squirts over your lips and chin. Once you're used to that you can try it further and further into your mouth.

She doesn't usually swallow either. She either spits dicretely into a tissue afterwards or lets it the semen leak out. If you swallow, some have said that a continuous gulping motion like you are drinking a whole bottle of softdrink works better than one big swallow at the end. Most guys like you to swallow, but it's not necessary. It's kinda like a bonus after a great BJ.

Baby steps. Do it little bit by little bit. You don't have to jump right in and let him cum right inside your mouth and then swallow if you don't want him to.

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Mon, 08-16-2004 - 9:04pm
I agree with what everyone here has said. I can only add that it's really more of a mindset type of thing. Meaning that you can try to view it as extremely intimate and sexual. Your husband is giving you a gift; a reward for you to savor for all the pleasure you just gave him. If you can get past texture/taste and all those fears and really think about it in a positive light, you will not only tolerate it but actually enjoy it...to the point of craving it most definitely!!!

I used to dread swallowing too. And with my ex, I would swallow but I basically learned to tolerate it. Now I am engaged to the most wonderful man I've ever known and I am so crazy about him!!! I find myself craving his load in my mouth and when I get to have it, I savor it. No, it doesn't taste like sugar or candy and yes, the texture is thick. But it's HIS and it's only for ME. And that makes it so incredibly special.

You know something, after I've been down there and I get my swallow, I find myself thanking him, and he thinks that is so cool and kinda humorous too. He's never had anyone swallow him before and he never imagined that he'd find someone who loves it and will thank HIM in the end.

You'll get there and I have a feeling you will grow to really enjoy the entire experience of tasting and swallowing him! :) Good luck

Jennifer

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Tue, 08-17-2004 - 12:37am
i dont agree with you sorry. i prefer to not swallow but i do it anyways, and i feel that the best thing to do it let it go straight to the back and swallow in one big gulp because you get it over with, you dont taste is as much since the taste buds r on your tounge. so i suggest to let it go into the back right away and swallow as soon as possible!
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Registered: 05-30-2004
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 6:20am
It took me a long while to get used to it too. I now perform oral sex very often, but not always until that point - that's rare and special, but it keeps him interested and wanting it bad! ;)

At the very least you should try it once. I would recommend.. not brushing your teeth beforehand. That's honestly what puts me off most of all, having the minty fresh taste in my mouth and then having that taste, it's not a great combination. Eyuk!

I'm sure everyone is different - one person said she likes to savour it, I just like to get it down and over with! I enjoy performing but I'm not so fussed about the taste or the texture, but I'm happy that he enjoys it and that he gets a huge thrill from being swallowed.

His diet does have a LOT to do with the taste, so make sure when you do try it that he hasn't eaten lots of garlic! I've read somewhere.. if you get him to eat strawberries and kiwi fruit a couple of hours beforehand, the taste will be mild. That would certainly make the experience easier :)

As far as the amount, it really varies. I've had times where I can't swallow it fast enough to keep it from overflowing, and overtimes where it was hardly anything at all, barely noticable. Probably depends on how recently you've had sex beforehand, etc.. maybe try having sex and then do the other afterwards, whenever you're both ready.

Sorry if I've offended anyone, but we are talking about oral sex here!
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 7:55am

Nope, your post was not offensive at all.


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Tue, 08-17-2004 - 10:19am

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lol Yep, that's me too. Few minutes here, few seconds there, during foreplay, just enough to get his attention and like you said "keep his interest up" lol


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Mon, 08-23-2004 - 10:14am
Okay first of all I'm biased because I LOVE to swallow. That wasn't always the case though. I used to be scared but then once I did it it was like, "oh that's not so bad" and now I LOVE it!! Of course if you swallow too much of it it can wreak havoc on your digestive tract. Too much meaning that I gave my BF four BJ's in one night and the next few days I was running to the bathroom like crazy! Don't be scared of it though!!