I stop myself from orgasm

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Registered: 08-02-2011
I stop myself from orgasm
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Tue, 08-02-2011 - 3:49am
Ok so I never orgasmed with a partner. I read everywhere you have to do it to yourself first before anyone else can. Even though I got that "feel like I will pee on myself" feeling with a partner before I decided to try it solo. I got a vibe, and I get to a point where my legs tingle and twitch, I feel it get real intense but once my legs start twitching, I cannot force myself to go on. I feel like I can't take it and I can't keep going. I tried and tried. I had a similar reaction with a partner. I got that "gonna pee myself" feeling, legs twitching, and couldn't take it no more and stopped him. I can only think to compare it to being tickled. You just want to stop being tickled cuz it builds up so much. I dont know if this makes sense to anyone else but someone please tell me if this is normal and how to get around this. I feel like I need a partner to tie me down so I can't stop them is the only way to get there.
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Registered: 05-15-2012
Fri, 08-31-2012 - 5:13pm
Seriously it WILL happen. My fella is so patient and doesn't come until I do and we talk about it which really helps me to relax x
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Registered: 05-15-2012
Tue, 08-28-2012 - 2:14pm
Omg finally had the breakthrough last night and so happy x it has taken nearly 2 years of talking, relaxing and I think more importantly my other half has been patient and made an effort x
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Registered: 06-02-2012
Mon, 08-27-2012 - 11:47am

It's a mental thing - just relax and tell him to keep going when you're at that point.  When you have to cum it can feel like you have to pee, but that's not what's going on.  

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Registered: 05-15-2012
Sun, 08-26-2012 - 5:47pm
Oh my god x I actually thought I was alone in this. I have had this for longer than I care to mention. I hate to admit that I have never experienced an orgasm and last week, my other half got me as close as I have ever got, well at least I think so. My bits became so hot and I felt like I was going to pee and then it's like I became so embarrassed or even ashamed and had to stop it x what the hell do I do now?
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Registered: 08-02-2011
Fri, 12-09-2011 - 2:57am
Sorry guys I forgot about this post. The update is I tried circular motions with a vibe just on my clit and a little below it. And after a minute or two I get this whole body shake/twitch and then the spot is too sensitive to the touch to keep going at that moment.. Now I'm trying it figure out what that is. I dont know why I get to the too sensitive stage where I can't go on so quickly ( I literally cannot keep the vibe there until the sensitivity goes away. It's the same I can't take it feeling I originally had gotten stuck at) I also don't know what this is. So I'm no help still. Hope you've figured something out
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Registered: 08-09-2010
Sat, 10-01-2011 - 8:20pm

The same thing happens to me!!!

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Registered: 09-21-2011
Wed, 09-21-2011 - 9:56am

Oh my god. I thought I was the only one that went through this. I know exactly what you mean. I have had this problem ever since I started having sex. It feels so good but you just can't keep on because you feel like you're going to explode and you can't. It hasn't gotten any better for me either. If you figure something out let me know lol

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Registered: 08-08-2011
Thu, 08-11-2011 - 4:43pm
I also used to feel that and even know i still sometimes Feel like i can't go on... what worked on me was alot of solo time and u need to be comfortable with ur partner.. and ur partner has to be patient with u and not make comments.. i was always afraid of moaning too loud or making weird face expressions.. but don't be let it be natural and most important enjoy it.. good luck to u!
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Registered: 04-21-2008
Wed, 08-03-2011 - 8:51am

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