NEVR HAD A ORGASM WITH MY BOYFRIEND

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NEVR HAD A ORGASM WITH MY BOYFRIEND
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Thu, 09-06-2012 - 10:45pm

Hii have never had a orgasm with my boyfriend and we have been together for years.  This is so embarrising, because we are both in our 40.  and we have been together for 10 years.  i can't tell him.  i am also going thru emotional roller coast with him.  Sometimes i feel as though because i had sex when i was younger and i do mean a lot, perhaps i am not able to.  however i do masturbate my self.  but lately I can't stop thinking about sex day in and day out.  I am going crazy and i can't stop thinking about sex  Now it's like i need it so much. Could it be because of my  hormones.  He doesn't understand it either.  What do I do.  i try to please him as much as possible.  I try to make him happy. but sometimes he says the most awful things about me and to me.  It's likethe more he says things, the more i try to please him.  the sex is great.  I just want to have it with him;.  Also, I hear eveyone talking about the g spot. exactl how do you get to it. 

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Registered: 05-29-2012
Sun, 09-09-2012 - 10:29pm
Having had an Orgasm with all other men eliminates the idea of past experiences or hormones. You are probably so horny and think about it so much because you don't have any fulfillment with him.
You said he doesn't like your body, it sounds like he comments on it to you. If he doesn't appreciate you or your efforts to make sex good for him, you need to consider admitting this has come to an end. Him talking down to you and not liking your body is causing you to have emotional problems. It makes you self conscious and that's leading toward a negative body image. No one needs to stay with someone that doesn't treat them good.
Even if you were horrible looking and big as a house, someone will appreciate you and love you for what you are. Just look around. I've see UGLY guys that have beautiful women on their arms and vice-versa. Even then, it's better to be alone than abused. Yes, cutting you down is abuse.
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Registered: 05-29-2012
Fri, 09-21-2012 - 1:06pm
You seem to be torn between things...you need to make up your mind what you want. If he's messing around and you are sure and have proof, leave him. If he abuses you, leave him. Live is too short to live under those conditions. There will be another man that will treat you good and want you for your personality. You seem to have a negative body image. I have dated every type of woman there is. From an underwear model, gorgeous and thin, to large women, fluffy and cuddly, to average women, even a grandmother, she was a definite MILF, and more. I dated them for their personality and the way they made me feel. My SO is not beautiful by most standards, she is to me, but she makes me feel loved for the first time in my life. My ex used to accuse me of fooling around, I wasn't but most men would have (we didn't have sex at all for the last 7-10 years of our marriage, but I took my vows seriously. She, on the other hand, did not. My stepson came to me and told me she had a boyfriend. She couldn't deny it and that ended a 31 year marriage. Her son is still my best friend. Be brave if it comes to leaving him. If he is abusing you by being mean or cutting you down or whatever, talk to him. Let him know it hurts you. If that doesn't help, dump him and get out there again. Don't stay because you are afraid to be alone or worried about finding someone else. Guys like him don't usually change, so be ready for that. They think they are doing what a man should do. Nobody should try to build themselves up by tearing down another. If life were a track meet and he was running the hurdles he would have his lowered to the ground so it would look like he's clearing them by feet not inches. Like if you are with 5 broke friends and you have 2 dollars, you feel rich compared to them. I come here to impart some of the wisdom I have accumulated over my 60 years on this earth and sometimes pick up a pointer or two... I hope this helps you!