not sure when i have reached orgasm

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Registered: 08-27-2005
not sure when i have reached orgasm
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Sun, 10-23-2011 - 12:04am

I am currently in a relationship and enjoy sex with my new boyfriend. I am not sure at times when i have reached orgasm. In a previous relationship, i remember at one point the lovemaking was extra sweet and i figured i had an orgasm. However, sometimes i am not sure if i have reached one at times, niot just in my present relationship but previous relationships. so tell me how do you really know if you have achieved orgasm?

k2002
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Registered: 10-24-2011
Mon, 10-24-2011 - 4:20pm
Dear k2002, if you have an orgasm there is no doubt that you have had an orgasm; you will have muscular contraptions and moan and maybe scream and a unique sensation will spread all over your body. Afterwards you might shake like a leaf. Sounds like you have never had an orgasm I am afraid, you might want to try some stimulation of clitoris to achieve it.
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Registered: 06-27-2007
Tue, 10-25-2011 - 12:29pm

Buy a vibrator and experiment with yourself.

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Registered: 08-27-2005
Sun, 11-20-2011 - 11:59pm

Thanks for your response. i just saw this. I have had orgasms in the past as i mentioned before. The sex felt extra sweet. i don't necessarily scream. In a previous relationship i had some years ago, my boyfriend at the time said he felt it and was able to say that it was three times. I love to masturbate and as a result i achieve orgasm on my own in that way. But previously in some instances i am not sure if i had one although I am usually very wet. Sometimes I take a long time to achieve one during that particular act. So then what are some of the positions we could use to ensure that I definitely have an orgasm?

k2002
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Registered: 08-27-2005
Mon, 11-21-2011 - 12:00am

Thanks for your response. Appreciate it.

k2002
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Registered: 12-05-2011
Mon, 12-05-2011 - 12:08pm
So I am having the same problem. I have never
gotten off durring sex yet..my guy gets me off afterwards.what would you say is the best position to get off durring sex?
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Registered: 08-01-2006
Tue, 12-06-2011 - 3:25pm

Have you read the responses here? Most women do not get off with intercourse unless there is clit stimulation.



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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 12-07-2011 - 11:55pm
Clitoral contact is the key. If your guy is on top you can use your fingers to gently rub it or for more intense stimulation try using a vibe. I personally like to be on top and ride my guy. This provides PLENTY of clitoral contact and has the added advantage of giving him a chance to touch and give oral attention to your nipples.

I also sometimes find that I can orgasm if he tells me when he starts to cum. Hope this helps.
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Registered: 08-27-2005
Thu, 12-08-2011 - 12:22am

wow, i love to be on top too. I love this position. when I am on top, he can suck my breasts at the same time.

k2002
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Registered: 08-27-2005
Thu, 12-08-2011 - 12:25am

true,. when you have a lot of clitoral stimulation, it helps u to come.

k2002
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Registered: 08-27-2005
Thu, 12-08-2011 - 12:27am

try the woman on top position. We will have to experiment further but try it and let me know your results.

k2002