Numb Clit

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Registered: 01-26-2004
Numb Clit
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Sun, 02-01-2004 - 4:37pm
I really enjoy deep penetration however at the deepest extremes my clit actually goes numb. I love to orgasm with deep thrusting but it means that I can't get any more orgasms from clit stimulation afterwards. Does this happen to anyone else?

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: orgwoman39
Mon, 02-02-2004 - 12:53am

Hi, Org.

 

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Registered: 12-12-2003
In reply to: orgwoman39
Mon, 02-02-2004 - 8:34am
hi

the key here to un numb your clit lol is INDIRECT stimulation

that should build you back up to more arousal quickly

for example if u feel it getting numb, have him STOP for a moment and give you oral sex or manipulation w his fingers or even have him take it out and rub the head around your clit tip without touching it

BUT make sure it is indirect

like have him lick lazy circles around the tip again and again and what this will do i have found is get your clit aroused again and the numbness will go away

your clit tip is VERY sensitive after an orgasm and needs to rest sometimes lol

i being a male had a woman once with this problem and tried this and she said the indirect stimulation built her up to MORE EXPLOSIVE orgasms and that the "longer the tease the longer the please lol "

let me know if this helps

john
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Registered: 01-26-2004
In reply to: orgwoman39
Mon, 02-02-2004 - 4:57pm
The depth of penetration is definitely the cause for my clit going numb (i.e. it happens in every position). Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind it going numb and I don’t think it is a “problem”. I just love taking as much as I can after I’ve had my fill (no pun intended!) of orgasms via clit etc. For me the numbness happens only when I’m taking ten or more inches. It doesn’t last long at all (a second or two after each deep thrust) but if I’m trying to rub my clit at the same time I have little or no sensation. I can actually orgasm from really deep thrusting alone, but only after I’ve had orgasms via another method. Because of this my husband and I always save the deepest for last. I’m not worried about it at all since it has happened for years and my clit seems to be working just as well as ever. Just curious.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: orgwoman39
Tue, 02-03-2004 - 5:26am

How deep are you taking it?

 

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Registered: 01-26-2004
In reply to: orgwoman39
Tue, 02-03-2004 - 5:38am
Hey, were on at the same time! My vagina is definitely on the large side. As I said earlier, my clit goes numb when I take ten or more inches. The most I've ever taken is 13. I realize this is way more than most women, but my husband is large and I have a couple of extra thick and long dildos that I also like to use.
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Registered: 12-12-2003
In reply to: orgwoman39
Tue, 02-03-2004 - 7:57am
omg !!

13 inches

that is BIG lol

i can only boast of a mere 7 and now i feel inadequate lol

but i AM very thick which is important too i guess since i have been told then a woman can feel it massage all over her insides = its about as thick as 3 of my fingers

do u prefer thickness or length ? like did u have stronger or more orgasms with that longest one ? i am curious is all since i have always wondered as i have read about many women fantasizing of large ones...

back to the topic on hand though - i can only say that if your clit is only numb for a second or two after deep penetration then u have nothing to worry of at all ...

i thought u meant it was numb for awhile after an orgasm and that is why i suggested the teasing AROUND THE CLIT TIP

u might still try it though after a powerful orgasm = and i will bet u that u will not only feel the numbness go away but that the indirect clitoral stimulation will build you back up again and again ...

try this next time u are with him or masturbating = like draw circles around the tip with your fingers or vibrator but dont touch the tip at all ... and do it especially as i said following your FIRST orgasm

i hope i can help

i am a male who loves to give pleasure myself and want to help give a male perspective of some of these issues

john
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Registered: 01-26-2004
In reply to: orgwoman39
Tue, 02-03-2004 - 1:43pm
I’m one of those women in the minority who really do enjoy very big penises. I think they offer a little more variety to play with. However, that 13 inches was way back as a sophomore in college with a particularly well hung boyfriend who was 13 inches long. I always felt a little “stirred-up” inside after I would take all of him. Now I don’t go much beyond 11 inches. Anyway, I digress. If I had to choose between length and girth I would go for girth. For the first 80% of sex I don’t usually go any deeper than nine inches and less than that is perfectly fine. There has been only one guy that I really didn’t feel much from but he was only about three inches around. Now I use an extra thick dildo (8 inches around) and while I love to take it really deep, it also feels great when I take only five to six inches of it, especially when I am rubbing my clit at the same time or better yet, when my husband is licking my clit. I can really get some mind blowing orgasm/ejaculation combos that way. I also have serious large ejaculations with really deep penetration, however I need to have orgasms via another way first.
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Registered: 06-17-2003
In reply to: orgwoman39
Tue, 02-03-2004 - 2:57pm
Thirteen inches? I didn't know men came that large!! I thought my DH's ten inches is a rarity but I guess not. It took a while for me to get used to his size but now that I have I'm glad he's as large as he is. I'm curious though how do you control your husband's dephth of penetration? My DH always wants to go as deep as he can even when I'm on top.

Elena

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Registered: 01-26-2004
In reply to: orgwoman39
Tue, 02-03-2004 - 3:28pm
My husband is also ten inches! I think I said he was eight in an earlier discussion but that is his flacid length (he doesn't "grow" much). By the way, none of my girlfriends have ever "had" anyone over eight inches so I think ten is pretty uncommon. Thirteen was damn impressive. I think the statistical probability of my having two men, ten or more inches in length is about a million in one! While my husband is ten inches long, I probably am only really taking 9-9.5 inches even when he is fully in me and that is fine. The issue (numb clit) that I was originally talking about only occurs with my extra large dildo (14 x 8 inches). I only like the deep penetration with that towards the end of our love making. Have you talked to your husband about waiting for the deeper penetration until the end? That way you get what you want in the early phase and he can go for it later. I'm pretty straightforward about what I like and tell my husband directly what turns me on and what doesn't. And he knows from experience that when I'm turned on, I'm pretty much putty in his hands!
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Registered: 06-17-2003
In reply to: orgwoman39
Tue, 02-03-2004 - 4:32pm
I guess we are too new at it. He usually doesn't want to wait for me. He wants to get in deep and cum as fast as he can. But he's able to start up again after resting for ten minutes or so and then he starts up again. So I eventually get as much as I want. I do get more pleasure during the end of intercourse but I usually don't orgasm when he's thrusting deeply. It still feels good though. FWIW I've never noticed any numbing of my clit during intercourse but my clit does get pretty sensitive and painful after lots of oral.

Thanks for your input.

Elena

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