Orgasms & One Night Stands

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Orgasms & One Night Stands
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Wed, 11-13-2013 - 2:13pm

Do you think that women find pleasure from one night stands?  A recent study sheds doubt on it: 

Women may be less likely to have an orgasm during a one night stand, according to one new study that's been attracting attention online this week. But what's lost in the conversation is this: some women never orgasm from intercourse, no matter the circumstance.

Much of the chatter about the new research is part of a continuing national fret about so-called “hook-up culture.” But the reality of sexual satisfaction is much more complicated than most such stories make out.

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Many women never orgasm, and about one-third never, or rarely, orgasm from intercourse. Yet many of these women find great satisfaction in intercourse, which can set off a cascade of brain responses facilitating a sense of well-being, closeness, pleasure.

Read more: http://www.nbcnews.com/health/its-not-just-hookups-some-women-never-orgasm-all-2D11577334

How important for is it for you for the woman to have an orgasm?

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Registered: 12-05-2010
Wed, 11-13-2013 - 10:49pm

As a 50 year old man, knowing what I do about female orgasms, I am amazed that women are so quick to jump in bed with us men nowadays. I'd think others of your gender would want more time to get comfortable with us first.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Mon, 11-18-2013 - 12:43am

I am confused by your post.  Whether or not a woman has orgasms is a totally different subject than "one night stands"!  If a woman is highly sexual, she can have orgasms all by herself, she doesn't need a man.  If a woman is anorgasmic, then it doesn't matter if it's a one night stand or a long standing relationship.  It seems that these days women seem to think that to get a man there has to be sex on a first date, and there could be nothing further from the truth.  You "get" a man because he's attracted to you long before you get to the sex, and if he's attracted to you, NOT having sex won't matter.  I have had a few one night stands, and at that time I was anorgasmic.  i didn't expect one, and I didn't have one.....and also during a "one night stand" I think most guys are not concerned with the womans response at all.......unless maybe in an egotistical way.  I usually felt badly afterwards, not for lack of orgasm, but for lack of self respect. 

At the end of your discussion of women's orgasms, and/or lack of them, you then seemed to address your question(s) to men.....who wouldn't have the foggiest idea of why a woman did or did not have an orgasm with them on a one night stand.  Probably most men wouldn't even KNOW if she had one, let alone care.  I don't think they care one way or another if a woman has an orgasm during a one time thing......unless maybe to feed their egos.  I think it's more of a concern to them in an ongoing relationship. 

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Registered: 05-09-2004
Tue, 02-18-2014 - 11:39am

Depending on the woman, her knowledge of her own body, and how caring her partner is; a woman can have just as much enjoyment yphysically with a One Nighter, as she could after years of sex with the same partner.

How important is an orgasm to me?  It depends on my mood.  There are times when emotional intimacy take priority, and times when my body needs a good strong orgasm.  I can take orgasmic matters into my own control, but the emotional intimacy is under anothers control.