Plus size babe having difficulty reaching the big O

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Registered: 11-03-2003
Plus size babe having difficulty reaching the big O
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Tue, 04-05-2011 - 11:33pm
Hi everyone. My name is cari. Im 25, My fiancee (27)and i have been together for 3.5 years. I have just recently re-discovered my high libido ( bipolar meds made me have no libido for most of our relationship, very sad .. But hes still here!!!) we have sex sometimes 2 or 3 times a day. I would like to discover new plus sized gal 'moves' that will hopefully reach orgasm. I rub myself, or he does if possible. Tips and tricks for new kinds of kink would be great!!
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Registered: 08-01-2006

Hi Cari. YAY for your libido returning!

Let's see. Do you masturbate? If so, are you able to orgasm then? Again, if so, what are you doing that you need to tell him? Do you use toys? Have you ever orgasmed?

Check out this website as it's filled with great information. http://the-clitoris.com/



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Registered: 02-09-2009

Question...are you getting closer to reaching orgasm or not?

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Registered: 11-03-2003
Yes i do masturbate but sometimes no matter how long i try i cant seem to reach the end. Sometimes i do. I cannot currently afford a toy. DBf thinks i am desensitised from useing a rabbit toy in the past.
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Registered: 08-01-2006

I have heard that that is possible. Ok so, how much time is spent on foreplay? Are you relaxed? Just thinking about the moment and how you're feeling?

Also, you might want to stop trying so hard to orgasm. That's not what makes sex wonderful. There are times when it just ain't gonna happen no matter what, and that's ok.



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Registered: 11-03-2003
Usually lately there isnt much time spent on forplay :( im lucky if he goes down on me for roughly 10 minutes ( unfortunatly i do taste strong i use feminine wipes but the taste still remains) i have an unusually hard time clearing my mind so my relaxation level often varies (i have bipolar disorder). My breasts are rarely sensitive and the same with most of my erogenous zones. Oh ive experienced a gspot orgazm once and it was amazing!!
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Registered: 08-01-2006

Then you both have to make the time for foreplay! Instead of using the wipes, go into the bathroom and wash yourself with soap and warm water, or take a shower together.



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Registered: 04-21-2008

Hi there and welcome.

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Thanks tasha! Good idea on the thinking beforehand. We used to take showers together all the time but now we live with his parents so its all got to be hush hush
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Registered: 06-08-2009

You've received some good advice. I agree with NH that you guys should concentrate on sensuality rather than sexuality. Do things to give each other pleasure. Be sexually playful. Relax and you will be more likely to orgasm. He sounds like a great guy, so make sure you pleasure him. Learn to gift him with a really good handjob.