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Registered: 10-29-2013
secrets
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Tue, 10-29-2013 - 6:41pm

I am not usually into having intamate with my hb. In the beginning its all I wanted. He didnt. We have been married 13 years. Now within the last week its all I want. We did It two days in a row and I just cant get enough. Now he won t touch me. I told him that I will get myself a toy and he got embarassed and almost mad. I hace been secretly watching adult videos on my phone. Playing with myself every chance I can get. Dreaming of being with other men and even something I have never thought I would feel but what it would be like to be with another women. I look at men and women and wonder what it would be like to be with someone else. Or  how big their are. Not sure what to do. I  am always in the mood all the time. I cant stand it.

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Registered: 09-06-2013
In reply to: momtwogirls2
Tue, 10-29-2013 - 10:05pm

Now you know how men feel most of the time. I think masturbation is your only hope in the short term. For the long haul, I think you two will have to talk about why he doesn't want it. Maybe he doesn't feel like a confident lover, or he's gay, or there's some things buried form his past, like abuse. Or, maybe it's something physiological, has he ever been tested to see if there's something physical going on? If he doesn't want to even touch you, then he should at least be open to the idea of you getting yourself off, otherwise you're more likely to stray, right? If you are looking for a toy, I recommend the rabbit, the bullet, or our most recent purchase...the Tantus Silk medium. Wife loves it! 

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Registered: 12-13-2010
In reply to: momtwogirls2
Sun, 12-01-2013 - 1:04pm

   Your feelings are completely normal.  To keep him in the mood, one suggestion or two: I find it an incredible turn on to watch my wife pleasure herself.  If he is not ready for it to be to so grafic, start with some teasers. Maybe just lay in bed with something sexy on while he's in the shower, and when he's out, do something subtle sexually.  I started slowly while having sex with my wife.  I just guided her hand towards herself and told her it turned me on.

  We've evolved a lot since. My latest/greatest was making a little vid of myself(you can imagine what) and put it on her side of the bed for her to see when she got out of shower.  I cracked the bedroom door and peeked through to see her reaction. Needless to say, it ended well for me.

 Just a few suggestions to ponder. Please let me know how it goes. By the way, we've been married about the same time. Some sparks needed are normal. Just communicate.  Good luck!

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Registered: 06-27-2005
In reply to: momtwogirls2
Fri, 12-06-2013 - 1:06pm

I whish my DW wanted a toy, I would enjoy helping her use it. Go ahead and get one, not one that looks like a penis, you don't want your DH to think he has something to compete against. Then get him all worked up, draw out the foreplay so long that he can't wait until he gets to you. Then I would take him into your hand and masterbate him, and when he goes off more foreplay and get him worked up again. Then tell him he needs to give you a hand job and pull out your toy and tell him to use his hand, fingers and the toy, to mix it up. If he does not want to help you out tell him you will be so hot when he do you will attack him with the best sex he has ever had. Most likely you will because you will be getting what you want and I am sure you will give him in return what he wants. Then have him take care of you in different positions and finally let him in his favorite position with you when you are ready to let him and you explode, Have fun keep us posted.