Uncomfortable O

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Registered: 09-21-2011
Uncomfortable O
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Wed, 09-21-2011 - 10:03am

Okay, so I started having sex about 4 years ago and everytime I get to the point where I need to climax, I just can't finish it. My ex-partner wasn't the problem because he could magically keep going. He would always try to make me climax before he finished but I never could so he would have to finish so that he didn't have problems. I have heard trying solo is a good way of getting to know your body but I just see it as awkward. I would rather be with someone than be by myself. When I'm by myself I feel more pressure to climax than when I'm with someone. I also have heard that if you wait awhile to have sex, like a month or so, it's easier to climax. I haven't been with anyone in about 5 or 6 months. And I have been dating someone for awhile and I think it's getting closer to the time. I don't want to not be able to achieve orgasm with him. What should I do?

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Wed, 09-21-2011 - 11:36am

All I can really offer is that you try to relax and just go with the flow when you're with partner. I, too, have tried soloing, and it can feel so good, but I can't get over that point, either.



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Registered: 04-21-2008
Fri, 09-23-2011 - 9:11am

Maybe you could double up on the foreplay?

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