who comes first ?

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who comes first ?
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Sun, 07-22-2012 - 8:37pm

When you make love, who usually comes first? Do you have a preference?

 My DW need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm so I usually ether stroke her with my fingers or go down on her to give her an orgasm.  To orgasm during intercourse I have to give her some additional manual stimulation during.

 Sometimes me first is better because she is more worked up when I get to her. If she has orgasmed first she is more laid back relaxed while we work on mine.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Registered: 11-08-2010
Wed, 07-25-2012 - 4:58pm
remember fellas it takes a little more for a woman. Most definitely let her reach her ultimate climax! if i have a orgasm first it makes me want him even more!!! team orgasm has now gone into overtime
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Registered: 06-02-2012
Thu, 07-26-2012 - 6:14pm

I'd rather cum first, but I want the guy to be happy too.  If he needs to cum early that's fine.

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Registered: 05-29-2012
Tue, 07-31-2012 - 9:10pm
The old phrase: "Ladies First" comes to mind. When my SO comes first, usually 3-4 times, we can settle down and really enjoy the closeness and love. Sometimes I don't come at all, but that's ok. (medical reasons) but I want to make sure she has enjoyed our lovemaking.
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Registered: 10-05-2012
Tue, 10-09-2012 - 12:22pm

It varies.What matters is that the one that comes first stays active and works for the other to have a a fullfilling orgam.

Speaking for myself I can usually come quickly but I would rather make it last for a number of reasons.  One of the main reason I like to last longer to help my partner reach orgasm and working with her making it the best for her. 

 

But regardless of our desires you have to go with the moment. I have had women that normally take a long time but on occassion they could come quickly. Other times and it takes her an extremely long time,like an hour give or take.  Some times I am ready to come before her but do my best to hold out.  

Its much nicer to build to a nice orgasm rather than trying to hold but end up coming anyway. I have told women that I am ready to cum (before they were ready) and  I would do what is neccessary to make them come. Sometimes its finger or it could be a toy. I have been asked to eat  which is ok if she is enjoying it, helping a woman orgasm is great fun.

Since I put such effort into doing what a woman needs it it disapointing to hold off till she comes and then have her become totally passive and just lay they. Move, talk to me, tell me to....

So it doesnt matter to me who comes first but I do try last for her.  It seems most women like to have a penis in them when they come.

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Registered: 05-18-2008
Mon, 10-07-2013 - 9:10pm

It does not matter to me, because most of the time he will make sure that I orgasm either way.   It is probably pretty close, but I probably orgasm first a little more often.  

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Registered: 11-18-2013
Mon, 12-09-2013 - 7:16pm

Almost always my wife cums first, since she has multiples it just seems logical. I think the best orgasms were after she came a few times we went to the 69 pos ( something about the view of her on top, me looking at her pussy and glancing down at my dick disappearing in & out of her mouth is great ) and as she came again I would cum at the same time.