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| Thu, 09-01-2005 - 4:44pm |
My boyfriend of six months has told me that he is ready to have sex. We are both virgins and have talked about having sex, but I don't think I'm quite ready yet. I'm on birth control and we have discussed using a condom and everything, I'm just still a little nervous. He said he would wait as long as I need, and I don't feel pressured, but I really WANT to have sex with him and want to be ready. Is there anything I can do to make me feel more prepared and ready?

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As long as you have any doubt or questions about it, then hold off.
I don't think you should be trying to MAKE yourself feel more ready though. When the time is right for YOU, you'll know and you won't have to talk yourself into it. It will just feel totally spontaneous and natural. Wait until it feels right.
But there will always be a risk when having sex, even on the pill and with condoms. Nothing other than abstinance, as you know, will keep you 100% protected.
Sorry Naleiya, but I have to disagree with you.
As long as you have any doubts, or fears or nervousness, then you're not ready. You have a lifetime ahead of you to be sexually active, there's no hurry. I have never heard a woman regret that she waited too long, but many women will tell you that they regret doing it when they were too young!
When you're ready, you'll know. When in doubt, DON'T!
Isobel? Take it from a family-loving protective man, and husband...when in doubt, WAIT!!! You have a great guy thats willing to wait and not pressure you, so don't be yet ANOTHER statistic and regret your choices. Wait wait wait wait wait until you KNOW you are ready. As a Bible fearing man, its my duty to tell you to wait till marriage. As fellow member of this board though, lol, you wait until you can't hold it anymore...THEN you'll be ready.
Also, keep in mind that unless you tell him clearly, he may not know if you're feeling your own feelings out when you eventually try this or if you're truly truly ready. You've got to be clear with him at all times! This is from other experiences AND suggestions I've read from ladies across the boards on this subject, so some readers may find it helpful.
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