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Registered: 09-01-2005
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Thu, 09-01-2005 - 4:44pm
My boyfriend of six months has told me that he is ready to have sex. We are both virgins and have talked about having sex, but I don't think I'm quite ready yet. I'm on birth control and we have discussed using a condom and everything, I'm just still a little nervous. He said he would wait as long as I need, and I don't feel pressured, but I really WANT to have sex with him and want to be ready. Is there anything I can do to make me feel more prepared and ready?

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Registered: 07-01-2004
In reply to: isobel_burgess
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 8:18pm
I have to agree with the others..dont do it if you have the slightest doubt in your mind. Like I said before..when you are ready it will just happen...there will be no talking about it or anything...the moment will feel right and you will do it..but dont do it until then. I was 18before i lost my viriginty and i married the man i lost it too. So all i can say it just wait, you dont want to regret it or come up being pregnant...you will know when the time is right..
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Registered: 12-01-2003
In reply to: isobel_burgess
Mon, 09-05-2005 - 11:36am
No. when it happened to me it was great! the ONLY pain was when he pushed deeper. ACTUALLY.. i wasnt encouraging her in that kind of way... so talk what you know okay!
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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: isobel_burgess
Mon, 09-05-2005 - 12:09pm

Since I've been sexually active since before you were born, and probably before your Mother was born......I think I do know what I'm talking about!

Since August 17, which was your first time (and I think your only time) you have been freaking out about bleeding, about the possiblility of being pregnant, and about a pap smear. That doesn't sound to me like you were ready, or that it was so great! Then there is your statement: "we had foreplay and i wasnt scared or really tryna think about the pain but it was so tight it hurt badly."

Exactly which way WERE you trying to encourage her?

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