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Registered: 06-07-2005
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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 11:55am
alright. My boyfreind and i are both virgins. weve talked about sex and were not shy about it. and weve been together for a long time now but if we start having sex does this mean that i have to start going to a gyno? And how do you get pre-cancerous cells? Can i still get them since neither of us have had sex? oh and another questions (haha) I no that doing it your first time hurts, is there anyway that to make it less painfull?
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Registered: 05-27-2004
In reply to: chay16
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 12:29pm

Every female over 18 or 20 should be going to a gynecologist annually whether or not she's sexually active.

You get "pre-cancerous" cells when your body is developing cancer. That has NOTHING to do with sex. Nuns can get cervical cancer. If you get HPV from your partner, that makes your chances of getting cervical cancer higher, but you don't have to be sexually active to get cancer.

A pap smear, the test for cervical cancer is a test ONLY for that, it is not a test for STD's. If you're sexually active, you can ask for STD testing when you see the doctor. Some of them are done with blood work, and some at the same time as the pap smear.

If your b/f is a virgin, then he SHOULD be clean, and not have any STD's. But, he can still get you pregnant. That's another reason to see your doctor, so that you can get on a reliable form of birth control before you start taking risks. The pill is 99% effective if taken properly (the 1% failure rate is usually due to human error!) While condoms are only 89 or 90% effective.

First time sex, or any time sex should NOT be painful.....it's only painful when neither party knows what they're doing. If a woman is aroused and well lubricated, it should not be painful at all. You both need to understand how a woman's body works, and a good place to start learning is by reading about it on the computer. Read how you can and cannot get pregnant. Read how a woman gets aroused, and ready for sex. BOTH of you should do your research. A good place to start is www.the-clitoris.com That's information about how to enjoy sex. Do a search on reproduction to understand how and why you get pregnant, and/or how to prevent pregnancy. You can also talk to the doctor about all of it.

If you're properly prepared, it should be a good experience, with no problems.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: chay16
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 1:01pm

I'm just posting to agree wtih everything Greenteabag said.


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Registered: 05-27-2005
In reply to: chay16
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 4:34pm
you sound too young to have sex, i'd say hold off on being sexually active.
So what's a 'long term' relationship for you? How long have you guys been together?
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Registered: 09-25-2004
In reply to: chay16
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 3:13pm
I agree with Yulka. It sounds like you might be younger than 18, which means you shouldn't be on this board. If you're wondering how you get pre-cancerous cells, you just do. Cancer is cells that continuously divide and grow beyond control. And you don't get cancer from having sex. I don't think sex should be in your future until you know more about your body, sex, and the reprecussions of engaging in sexual activity w/o protection at all. And when you're mature enough to understand and handle the feelings associated with sex.
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Registered: 10-18-2003
In reply to: chay16
Thu, 06-09-2005 - 6:48pm

Actually, every woman/girl should see a gyno yearly after she starts menstruating. At the younger ages they wont' necessarily do a full internal exam, but once you start your period, you should see a gyno (or family doctor who is strong in gyno med) every year.


Other than that .. right on with your post.



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