1st nudist attempt

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Registered: 09-22-2004
1st nudist attempt
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Sun, 09-16-2007 - 8:54am
I hope everyone can help with this question. I am a 26 year old man who is in good shape and have been told that I am very attractive and that I have many things going for me. The only problem is that I myself have many self doubts and am pretty damn insecure about myself as a whole, almost as if somehow I missed out on something along the way. I have decided that trying out a nudist camp for a couple nights might be therapeutic for me to try to build some confidence and

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Sun, 09-16-2007 - 9:49am

Hey flyguy-


I'm not sure about this.

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Sun, 09-16-2007 - 10:35am

I suppose that it would be inevitable in the beginning, but once you realize it's NOT about sex (as far as I know most nudist camps are "family oriented"......there are children there!) but about being unclothed and free.......you might get over the sexual thoughts.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sun, 09-16-2007 - 1:00pm

I've not been to a nudist event either, but I would think that the major thing that keeps erections at bay is the idea of why you're there. While I understand that a beautiful woman's body will normally cause an erection, if you meet a woman whom you find to be emotionally beautiful, does that also give you an erection? Beauty comes in different stages and has different versions. I believe nudist look past the physical beauty, they are looking for the general beauty in people.

Your brain is your biggest sexual organ. Think about it. Male gyn's don't get an erection while doing a physical exam of a beautiful woman -- it wouldn't be professional by any means. The doctor isn't focused on the woman's body as a sexual vessel, he's interested in her health, and his mind is on his task (which is non-sexual).

I would think showing your erection would be more like being an exhibitionist instead of a nudist. That is why, I supposed, it would be best concealed. It would also make other nudist feel uncomfortable, as if they were being viewed as a sex object and violated. They aren't there for your sexual pleasure -- they're there because they want the freedom associated with being a nudist.

I wonder how you think being at such a place would help your self-esteem? While you can have positive and negative things in life affect your self-esteem, it really comes from within you. Can you pinpoint things that you feel have affected your self-esteem?










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Registered: 09-22-2004
Sun, 09-16-2007 - 3:29pm

I give up.

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Registered: 09-22-2004
Sun, 09-16-2007 - 3:39pm
Based on the responses it sounds like I being at a nudist camp having an erection but not being "wierd" is still something to be ashamed of and offensivce to the women there. Isnt it natural to be physically and sexually attracted to a woman that you find attractive? In no way do I view this as a trip about sex, its a trip about being free and absent of the world around me and to be on the same level as everyone else around, clothes free. How the heck do you just turn the sexual self off altogether? People are sexual beings and I would think that appreciation of the opposite sex's physical attributes more of a complement than anything. No I will not be going to gawk but at the same time if i'm there I dont want to pretend i'm not and not see anyone else. You see people, you interact, and although the intent of myself might not be sexual I see the possibility of an erection as very real. I would certainly hope it wouldnt make a woman all freaked out because its not my style to be some wierd slimy gawker type of guy who would say suggestive things, etc. I just wanted to experience the nudist lifestyle and I think I might have an interesting memorable experience doing it. And yes to be honest I do think there is some benefit to shedding ones clothes and presenting yourself in a public setting to others, really puuting the whole self out there without cover or expensive clothing, ect. Its a very level playing field and although it may not apply in the "real" world it might just teach me something.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sun, 09-16-2007 - 3:50pm

I'm not sure why you said "I give up". Perhaps you're trying to get validation for having sexual thoughts towards others at the nudist camp. I tried to explain with the example of the gyn, but I don't think you're looking at that as a reasonable comparison. Hopefully someone who has been to a nudist camp can chime in here and explain the difference, or the thought process that might be involved.

BTW, you seem to understand the absence of clothing as the "thing" that would cause this. Just out of curiosity, do you find yourself becoming sexually aroused by the checker at the grocery store, a co-worker who drops an assignment on your desk, the receptionist at your doctors office, etc?










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Registered: 05-06-2007
Sun, 09-16-2007 - 4:05pm
Just my 2 cents....it is said that the majority of humans on earth
are not that attractive when nude....running into a woman with
a killer body is probably a bit rare. Don't get me wrong...anything
in this world is possible. If you connect a nudist area w/ a sexual
feeling or thought then you may get an erection. If you connect
it with a new experience...curiosity...or as a kind of adventure
then you probably wouldn't worry about getting an erection.
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Registered: 09-22-2004
Sun, 09-16-2007 - 4:10pm
No the absence of clothing isnt the only reason that would cause this and "this" shouldnt be viewed as a bad negative thing especially by women becasue they dont have one. Heck if the wind blows the wrong way the thing starts to act up sopmetimes. Its nice to be a woman in a place like that because to be honset women dont have significantly noticeable things that would show sexual arrousal. Yes I think nudity might promote this especially if it were a beautiful woman and beauty is in the eye of the beholder of course. But at the same time yes a very attractive girl might get a similar reaction if fully clothed. I just dont want to be thought of as not a nudist team player. I shouldnt feel ashamed of my natural self and as I said this is not a trip for me to get my kicks. I want some honest feedback and it would be great if someone or a few people would chime in on this, especially those who have been through this.
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Sun, 09-16-2007 - 11:53pm

I don't know if you're familiar with "Spencer Tunick"......if not, check it out here.

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Registered: 12-06-2001
Mon, 09-17-2007 - 7:39am

As a life-long nudist, it's just a body.

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