1st Time Vibe User

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Registered: 08-21-2003
1st Time Vibe User
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Tue, 07-20-2004 - 6:31pm
Hello to everyone out there! I though that this was the "right" place to ask for help on this topic.

My BF and I will soon be celebrating our 2 year anniversary of being together as a couple as well as our 1 year anniversary of having intercourse for the 1st time. We want to make this night super special.....both romantic and erotic. We enjoy normal intercourse VERY much, but we want to take our relationship to the next level and try some new things :). We've come up w/ a slew of ideas and one that popped into both of our heads was to purchase a vibrator and try it out.

I'm very excited, but I'm also a little nervous about it. I've never had anything like that inside of me except gyno tools, the occasional finger, and my man's "real thing" ;). To ease the tension a bit, I'm thinking about purchasing it and trying it out by myself so I won't feel like a complete idiot the 1st time we use it together.

So, does anyone have any tips/tricks that I could possibly use? Remember, it is my first time using one of these things, so I have no idea what I'm doing. And any tips/tricks for when my man and I use it together? Anything would be appreciated!

Thanks in advance :)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 2:24am
Congrats on your upcoming anniversarys.

You do know that you can purchase all kinds of vibrators, not just the standard dildo types. Some are for external or clitoral use only and some are dildo types for internal use. You can use the external ones for extra enhancement during intercourse or use a dildo type for anal or vaginal stimulation during oral sex.

Personally, an internal vibrator does nothing for me. I use a very small, quiet vibe when alone and my DH straps a tiny one on his finger for extra pleasure during intercourse.

IF your BF wants to try anal stimulation, or prostate massage, a vibrator might offer another type of sensation for him. Either internally, via the rectum or indirectly on the perineum....the small area between his scrotum and anus.

I would suggest browsing online at many of the most popular sexual aid sites, like www.xandria.com, www.adameve.com or www.goodvibrations.com. You should be able to find something you'll both enjoy. Good luck and have fun.

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Registered: 05-21-2004
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 11:36am
I also like www.babeland.com they do a great job of offering advice...

I understand your nervousness and I think getting it first and trying it out on your own is a great idea!

I JUST bought a finger vibe (fits over the index finger) for clitoral stimulation- it could be GREAT for either of you to use during intercourse. It's not the *strongest* actual vibration (since it's pretty small it runs on watch batteries and doesn't have the oomph like a full sized vibe)- but it's a lot of fun!

When my bf and I use my vibe I usually like it best when we're spooning cuz he can get at my clitoris while he's inside me, but our faces are still close enough to kiss so we don't lose that connection.

Good luck and congrats!

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Thu, 07-22-2004 - 11:01pm
You may find that you don't end up inserting it much. The vibrations usually feel much better on the outside and on the clitoris.

When you are in the missionary postion try pressing it on your clitoris and then 'sandwiching' it between your clit and him as he penetrates you. That way both you and him feel the vibrations. It usually provides my partner and I with a fast and intense orgasm.

You could try giving him a BJ and holding it firmly just behind his testicles too.

It's pay to get some lube too. Something like KY Liquid is good. You'll probably find that the more lube on it the better.