20/f....bored sexually with boyfriend...
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| Thu, 06-02-2005 - 5:46pm |
Hi everyone,
I am new here and needed the advice of some experts. I am a 20 year old college girl going with with a 21 year old guy. It's serious and we are in love. Here's the problem. We both have decided to wait to marriage to have sex. But we have done everything up to sex already. While I love fooling around and stuff, well, it's getting kind of routine and boring. He's great at everything, no doubt. I have gone out with some pretty bad ones, so I know. Plus he's got a nice d***.
Now, what advice do you have. Any suggestions on new stuff to try. I really want to try some new fetishes to spice things up. He got nyquil the other weekend and fell asleep. It was so empowering to undress him! lol...kind of bad I know. I am not into S&M either. Feel free to email me at dek123leo@yahoo.com with ideas or post them hear. I'll be reading!
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Welcome to the board, Dek123leo.
I'm afraid you've come to the wrong place if you're looking for "expert" advice though. This is a board for people just like yourself, all different ages and backgrounds, simply sharing thoughts, ideas, experiences and opinions.
Oral sex, anal sex and manual stimulation and all the stuff you two can do when "fooling around" IS sex though, with all the risks of intercourse, so you are already sexually intimate, just not indulging in intercourse. Intercourse is just one form of sex.
But the best way to keep things interesting in the bedroom is to be open and experimental. Go to the bookstore and look at all the titles available for spicing things up and then read some things together. Ask him to tell you his fantasies and share yours. Enthusiasm and a desire to please go a long way in keeping those fires burning though...much more so than actual positions, techniques or contraptions you can pull out of the drawer. Switch your focus from yourself to him and watch how excited and enthused he'll become!
Thanks!
By 'experts' I meant people you might be a little older than me, but have had more experience.
I guess the thing I don't like about all the bookstore stuff and everything, is that some of it is just so raunchy, so I was just looking for some regular people to talk to about it. For example, most of that stuff talks about swinging, orgies, food, etc. etc. Stuff I really am not interested in.
I just thought some of you may have really, fun, exciting things you have done with your partner that I could try!
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That's a hard one. I don't get bored(ever), even if we aren't doing anything particularly adventurous at the time. Maybe your expectations are too high? What is it that you expect from sex? I know that for me it's a feeling of getting closer and a feeling of physical release all compiled together. I have mixed feelings about wanting to get to the release, but also wanting that incredible high of lust to last forever. Give me the basics, manual, oral, intercourse(not necessarily in that order), a few of my favorite positions specialized for each, some dirty talk, and I'm good to go. ;-) OK...OK...I'll give you a suggestion. Play a board game, like Monopoly(long) or Poker and make up your own dirty rules before you begin. Like if you get the "Go to Jail" card, that means you get spanked over the knee. ;-) Sex in it's most basic form, is exciting in and of itself....after 27 years with the same man, I still love to play.
Edited 6/2/2005 7:00 pm ET ET by rain_dancer_iam
Not every book at the bookstore is geared toward the kinky and outrageous though. Some are written by everyday housewives! But you did mention fetishes so there are plenty of books for that, too!
One thing my DH and I have done fairly consistently over the years is give one another a King/Queen night of indulgence once a week. One night a week I will indulge him in some much needed pampering and whatever he wants sexually and then he will do the same for me on my night. It helps each of us to feel really cared for and desired.
We never did figure out the stair thing. I can't help but worry about the potential for bruises on shins. And the dog may want to join in :-O
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