20/f....bored sexually with boyfriend...

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Registered: 06-02-2005
20/f....bored sexually with boyfriend...
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Thu, 06-02-2005 - 5:46pm

Hi everyone,

I am new here and needed the advice of some experts. I am a 20 year old college girl going with with a 21 year old guy. It's serious and we are in love. Here's the problem. We both have decided to wait to marriage to have sex. But we have done everything up to sex already. While I love fooling around and stuff, well, it's getting kind of routine and boring. He's great at everything, no doubt. I have gone out with some pretty bad ones, so I know. Plus he's got a nice d***.

Now, what advice do you have. Any suggestions on new stuff to try. I really want to try some new fetishes to spice things up. He got nyquil the other weekend and fell asleep. It was so empowering to undress him! lol...kind of bad I know. I am not into S&M either. Feel free to email me at dek123leo@yahoo.com with ideas or post them hear. I'll be reading!

Thanks

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Registered: 05-27-2005
Thu, 06-02-2005 - 9:54pm
how about being 'bad' in public places. One time my boyfriend and I went to the movies, sat in the back of the theater and engaged in "touching" each other down there... it was sooo hot and steamy!
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Registered: 09-11-2004
Thu, 06-02-2005 - 11:09pm

Dek,

Depending on how far you want to go, here are some potential suggestions:

1 - massage - you can keep it clean, bathing suits or completely naked. You can leave it unfinished or finish with hands, mouths or toys.

2 - have a picnic in bed or on the sofa, again depending on how far you want to go. Ingredients can be chocolate, honey, fruits, veggies. Take turns placing a dab of chocolate on your own body and let the other (blindfolded) find the hidden goodie. On blindfold and guess what something is. Use whipcream.

3 - body paint. It can be as simple as water colors or tempra paints from a dollar store. Again, you can have swim suits on or completely naked.

4 - A 'honey do' jar with things you want done to you. Foot massage, shampoo, a three minute kiss, a ten minute cuddle on the sofa, etc, etc.

5 - take a shower together and get all soapy. Again, if you want to wear swimsuits, go for it, or take it all off.

6 - go out to dinner and pass him your panties under the table. And if your daring, masturbate and make sure they are extra wet.

7 - Write a sex story together, alternating on who does which paragraph. Talk about what you like to do together.

8 - give a body massage - literally. Don't use your hands, just your body. Erect nipples usually substitute nicely for finger tips.

9 - find a remote place in the woods, lake or field and just make out either under the stars or in broad daylight. Play the 'picture in the clouds' game.

10- Again, if your into it, make a plaster cast of your BF penis. You can get kits on line.

11 - write sexy poems for each other. Choose a style like Dr Seuss.

krn :o)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 3:34pm

I wouldn't do the stair thing again unless I was on top! It's just way too uncomfortable for the person on bottom. Or I could borrow my son's knee pads and shin guards I guess! LOL!

Aisha, sorry but I got a visual of you and your hubby on the stairs, doggy style, with the dog gazing at your DH's bum thoughtfully! LOL!

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 5:11pm

Hey, I did mention that the stairs needed to be carpeted. We have thick padding and carpeting on our stairs. Rug burn is more of an issue than anything, particularly on the elbows. tee hee

As far as dogs are concerned, we were lucky in that department...our dog had(he just died last year) a stair phobia. He wouldn't go up nor down. ;-)

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Registered: 11-26-2004
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 5:35pm

tee hee

For certain positions(oral), it's very accommodating and less brutal. The giver can sit comfortably on a step(about three or four up) with their elbows resting on the step behind them. In this position they can lean back which places their body parallel to the stairs(without any discomfort). The receiver can then place their left foot on the step next to the giver's head and the other one about three steps lower. You end up doing a sort of split. You end up with a "genitals right in your face" stance. What's great about it is it's easy to pump. ;-) Or for a much more easier position, the receiver can sit on the steps, positioning themselves at about three or four steps from the floor, while the giver positions themselves between their spread legs and can easily give oral because they're higher up. Yes, though, carpeted stairs would make it nicer, you can still do many positions comfortably without any carpeting. What we do for love.... ;-)




Edited 6/3/2005 5:53 pm ET ET by rain_dancer_iam
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 7:00pm
Our stairs WERE carpeted and I still ended up with bruises on my back and hips. Interesting the first time but I guess I'm a little more interested in my comfort (and consequences) now than the daring. LOL!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 7:03pm
Now, THIS has possibilities. LOL!

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