24 and not enjoying sex--please help!

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Registered: 12-01-2006
24 and not enjoying sex--please help!
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Fri, 12-01-2006 - 7:10pm

I am 24 years old and have had four sexual partners throughout my life (all stemming from established relationships), but I have never had a raging libido. I have tried so hard to enjoy sex but find that the harder I try the more frustrated I get in my sexual endeavors. I think part of the reason is that it is terribly diffcult for me to be sexually stimulated: I have NEVER had an orgasm during sex. I'm not at all stimulated internally and though I have tried many sexual positions, none seem to hit me in any spot externally (or internally) that stimulates me. That G-spot referred to on magazine and book pages everywhere? Good riddance, the damn thing doesn't exist. I know; I've searched long and hard for it.

What is wrong with me?? I am 24 and should be able to enjoy sex just as much as my boyfriend! Please tell me that I am not a sexual lost cause. I really want to enjoy sex.

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Sat, 12-02-2006 - 12:40am

It sounds like you don't know what you're looking for, and making a project out of it. Sex is something to be enjoyed, not "worked at". Maybe your partners are lousy lovers.

I suspect you're talking about intercourse, not "sex". There's a lot more to sex than intercourse for a woman....and you're not stimulated internally, because there's little or no feeling inside the vagina. Most women DON'T have orgasms from intercourse alone..they have it from clitoral stimulation along with the intercourse. More women have orgasms from foreplay, oral and/or manual stimulation of the clitoris! If you have enough foreplay, you won't worry about intercourse....you'll just enjoy it. As for the "g" spot, yes it does exist.....but you just haven't found it yet. Save that for later, when you learn to have clitoral orgasms.

Learn about your body, and how it works at www.the-clitoris.com If your partner doesn't know what he should be doing for you, show it to him, too.

You don't have a low libido....you have boring sex....if you learn how to make it better, your libido will increase, too.