2nd Marriage: Wait until wedding night?
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2nd Marriage: Wait until wedding night?
| Sat, 07-09-2005 - 7:49am |
There are a fair number of posters who haven't had intercourse until the wedding night. If the first marriage doesn't work or if someone is widowed, would you wait until the 2nd wedding night to have intercourse? Or, now that the virginity barrier has been crossed, would you be more likely to have premarital sex?

Didn't wait for the first wedding night and wouldn't wait for the second one although I doubt I would ever remarry or live with someone if Dh died.
DH (my #2) and I had sex on the day we met LOL
Besides that, I don't believe in waiting for the wedding day....and I wouldn't marry someone who did.
well, I had premarital sex with both dhs. Xh and I started dating as teenagers and definitely had premarital sex.
Dh and I started having sex about a year before we got married .. it's his first marriage but my second.
I have no hangups, or no moral or religious issues, or anything of the sort about premarital sex.
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
YOu say a "fair amount" of people who don't have "intercourse" before marriage......but how many of them are doing EVERYTHING but intercourse, and exactly what do they think they're proving? The "everything else" is usually MORE intimate than intercourse....so I don't even GET that statement. If you're going to do "everything", then why not intercourse?
Having said that, in this day and age I wonder exactly how many people are not "intimate" before marriage, whether first or second? I think it's VERY few. And I would see less reason to avoid it when heading toward a second marriage. By that time, we should know how important the sexual part of a relationship is, and I'd rather find out before than after if we weren't sexually compatible.
I have no quarrel with anyone who chooses to wait, whether for moral, religious or any other reason.....but we've all see posts here from people who wait, and then are disappointed that it's NOT what they expected. That's really sad!