3" penis, need advice PART2
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| Wed, 09-20-2006 - 6:56pm |
This is part 2 of my first post and to say the least, it was a learning experience. After a long message of partial history I found out ONE POINT is all the post should include and should require nearly a yes or no answer. The post should not rely on any fantasy that the readers can read between the lines, just facts, the simpler the better. A serious post, on a serious matter makes you feel a "shrink's rate" is cheap. With a professional there can be a discussion to get more than a yea or nea, and it be worthwhile. This post didn't need that, but I was in hopes it would be useful, not a joke.
Thanks to the #2-3-4 replys, I have taken them with a positive attitude. I also see why they came to their answers. I replied with #5, and would wonder if I had that message in the first post how much difference it would make. As to the 6-7-8 replies I can only say I realized my #5 was useless. I see my lesson on using a post clearly. Thanks for your interest.
My wife and I have had a great marriage and we both work on it continually, to make it better. We have been blessed to have had only one "discussment", that being after we both had bad days at our work. I wanted supper after comimg home at 9:30PM after starting at 5AM and she had our lst baby that had been crying for the entire day and her having no experience with kids. She wanted to fight and I told her we would "have it out" as soon as she put the baby down. She was attempting to hit me with a ladder back chair with one hand while holding a crying baby. She left the room to put Kristy in bed and came back to find me gone. I had started walking around the house outside and when she came out, had cooled off and we had a good laugh. That was the extent of our fighting for 36 years, since then not even a raised voice. We make decisions together and never selfishly. We truly have a blessed marriage. We know each other inside and out. We have endured several tragic times, and also enjoyed the magic times. Never would it occur to "take advantage" of the other. And no I am not "whipped" in the least, or is she domineering. We have an ideal marriage. We both want to keep it working.

Dude, you're not making any sense.
Look, you came here asking for advice and yeah, we can only go on what you tell us. But I think that several people that regularly post here and give great advice 99% of the time all came to pretty much the same conclusion and solutions. And from what I can conclude, it's pretty sound and good advice.
I don't know why you think that anyone mentioned "whipped" or whatever. That is confusing and makes no sense at all.
I think that you've got the opposite problem that you say that we have. You have got that that many ideas and junk and stuff flying around up there in your head that you can't see the wood for the trees any more.
I think a shrink might be a very good idea, for YOU! I think your wife is handling things very well. Where did anyone say you were "whipped" or that she was "domineering"?
What most replies said was that you're trying to fix a problem that doesn't exist, except in YOUR mind. That's understandable.....you've had a traumatic physical experience.
Your wife declined your offer of an open marriage....that should be the end of it. When a woman loves a man....she's not interested in being with another man. When a man loves a woman, he's not going to encourage her to be with other men.
If your wife had a double mastectomy due to cancer....and she told you to feel free to be with another woman so that you could touch and enjoy her breasts....would you say yes? And if your answer to that is yes, then you have a VERY strange idea of love. If you love a person, you love them for WHO they are, and you don't CARE if they have something "missing". In her case, she doesn't seem to miss that 2.5 inches, only you do.
In order to "keep it working" though, you must communicate and a big part of communicating is LISTENING to your partner. It doesn't sound like you're doing that.
As long as you ignore what she says and continue to do what YOU think is best for her, then you will have conflict.
Stop trying to control her by attempting to FIX a perceived problem in your mind, and you'll both be happier for it.
Besides, if your wife REALLY wanted to take a lover, I'm quite certain she could find one of her own choosing.