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3-somes
| Wed, 04-12-2006 - 6:24pm |
My husband's all time fantasy would be a 3some, though i dont think we would ever do it, what have been some of your expierences with this?
| Wed, 04-12-2006 - 6:24pm |
I don't have any personal experience with a threesome, and never will, as my DH and I aren't into sharing our relationship with a 3rd party.
But many others have tried it and some say it was exciting and enjoyable and some say it opened up all kinds of insecurities and jealousies that eventually ruined the relationship.
There's just no way of knowing how it will affect you and your partner until after the fact. That's just not a risk my DH and I are willing to take with our marriage.
No 3somes for us either, it's not our thing.
Stacie,
There are some people
I had a threesome with a g/f and her best friend years ago - and it was my g/f's idea. To cut a long story short, everything went great and was fine (not mindblowing, just fun) until I ejeculated inside her best friend. My g/f promptly burst into tears crying "You didn't have to cum IN her!".
As the others have said, it's risky business and not something to attempt lightly. It works for a few people, for others it can absolutely blow the relationship out of the water. It gets complicated because the third person is a real live person with emotions and desires too. You aren't bringing a mindless sex toy into the bedroom that can be turned off or put into the bedside cabinet when you are finished with it.
Best advice? Do it only if you are really really sure that you AND him will be 1000% OK with it. Talk about it, talk about it, talk about it BEFORE doing it. Have some groundrules - eg. only done at a motel, not at home. Or neither of you ever see the third person alone Either of you can say "stop" at any time and things stop there and then, no questions asked. And its probably not a good idea to make it someone you know well and see often.