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| Thu, 06-10-2004 - 10:57pm |
A few years ago my husband brought up the idea of 3some with another girl. Although I was intrigued by the idea of it, I was hesitant and very nervous. Last year for Christmas I figured..WHY NOT. My husband never had any interest to have sex with these girls, he was just interested in sensual and erotic experience of the 3some (kissing, touching, etc...) I felt very comfortable and at ease and so we began exploring our options.
We started out by going to Strip Clubs and he would buy a lap dance for me. One thing led to another and we ended up in a private room with a stripper, making out. The following week we had an amazing experience with an escort.
As the months went by, this suddenly became the sexual fantacy that can now be fullfilled whenenever we wish. Unfortunatley, I was starting to feel very uncomfortable with the idea. My husband was very absorbed in it and he was trying to find a girl for us. He also asked me to talk these girls and see if we would get along. This was so uncomfortable for me.
For some strange reason I was begining to feel less sure of myself and not at all confident. Today, my husband told me that he would like to have a 3some again and I don't know what to do. I am not sure if this is good for a marriage. If anyone has similiar experiences that they can share, I would greatly appreciate it.

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You're assuming it will always end up fine. How do you know it will? I think it's possible to take all necessary precautions and stil have it turn out negatively. There is no way to gaurantee a good outcome.
>>I do however feel that when you are excluding things from your life, your mind is closed to them, and therefore you are more close minded about certain things than others. Make any sense there?<<
I really disagree with that. I think discussing them *is* being open. I don't feel it's necessary to indulge in something in order to qualify as being open about it. By that logic, if a couple openly discussed the pro's and con's of a threesome and decided it wasn't for them, they are suddenly close minded because they didn't indulge? I don't think so. I don't think it's necessary to engage in things that are potentially risky to be open minded, I think being able to discuss it freely and without judgement is enough.
Leticia
P.S. I'm not worked up, Jeep, really.
Edited 6/17/2004 4:35 pm ET ET by free_to_choose
We all have different boundaries, Jeep. And OUR choice not to share our bed with others has nothing to do with closemindedness, it's called discernment.
Edited 6/17/2004 5:59 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
It's a choice to be monogamous, just as it's a choice to have an open marriage. But our choice had nothing to do with fear at all. We simply believe that our relationship is too valuable to risk for a sexual fling.
We regularly discuss the status of our relationship and share our thoughts, and we're still in agreement about our choice. But if there ever came a time when one of us desired another person, then we'd discuss it as we always have.
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