4 sex websites?

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Registered: 05-29-2003
4 sex websites?
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Thu, 05-05-2005 - 6:24pm
I've been wondering if anybody else has used an adult website to find "booty calls".
I've done it myself a couple of times over the past two years and with fair success. Still friends with some of them. Always decent fellas and practice safe sex. However, I wonder if I'm not just keeping "emotionally safe" by just finding a "friend with benefits when it suits me". i've been single 5 years and have not had a steady relationship yet. painful divorce with 3 kids; two teens and a baby left behind. so the website has worked because i didn't have a lot of time for a relationship. but now i feel like i'm ready for more. has any other single gals, notably single moms, done the same thing?? or am i just a sex-crazed lusty redhead??
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-05-2005 - 6:39pm

"Sex crazed?" No, you just sound like a normal, healthy woman who's a bit leery of getting involved again. Can't say that I blame you either.

I never did the FWB thing myself since I've been married for a long time.

However, IF it serves your needs for now, then I see no harm in it but I would suggest taking the next serious relationship very slowly, for your sake, as well as for the children's.

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Registered: 04-26-2005
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 12:21pm
Haven't used the web to find FWB, but I have a couple that I either met throught friends, or elsewhere. I had FWB before marriage & now that it's over, I have them again. My girlfriends are all the same way, too. Nothing wrong with it that I see! ;-)
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Registered: 05-05-2005
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 12:35pm

Were you experiences good/feel safe with using those websites to meet people? I've looked at the sites and feel intimidated to use them.

I'm in a similar situation, too busy and overwhelmed raising kids as a single for a relationship right now but want to meet someone.

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Registered: 05-29-2003
Mon, 05-09-2005 - 4:14pm
My experience has been both positive and negative. I did not post a photo and would only respond to those who met specific criteria. i.e. - had a good job (so they said-lol), were parents as well, did not post "nasty" photos (if I wanted to see porn shots, I'd go to a porn site), and generally stated the same things I did. Although I know that some people ended up with a long-term relationship from the site, I never was looking for that. Just some good old-fashioned shagging. And it worked. I was lucky enough to meet a single Dad who was in the same boat-we found we could hook up a couple of times a month or more and that we would just be friends. This went on for a year, off and on. Then I met another fella who was single and just returned to the States from working overseas.
I think it can work, but took a lot of patience and icky e-mails to wade through to find suitable sex partners. I trust my gut too. I only met in public places initially and was not afraid to say "No thanks." or hear it back. If you have a strong ego, this will work. If you feel insecure and not so great about yourself, you could get hurt.
hope this helps. keep in touch, if you'd like.
It is HARD being a GOOD single Mom and working and trying to even date. Kids come first but I tell ya, I thought I would BUST if I didn't get laid soon!
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Tue, 05-10-2005 - 7:10pm
I am on those adult web sites, I have met some very nice men on there. I was with 1 guy for 7 months, he founds someone else , but we are still friends and chat online often. I am currently seeing 2 guys from the web site and it works out well, 1 can only see me during the week and the other during the weekend. I may eventually give up 1 or the other, just not sure which 1 yet. Wish I could find a guy who was both of them put into 1, I would drop them both and stay with my dream guy.