40 something women & sexual peaks?
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40 something women & sexual peaks?
| Sat, 03-17-2007 - 3:06pm |
Hello!
I am wondering if any other women out there have experienced a sexual peak at age of 40? (or 40 something) I know most the information out there tells us that our peaks are earlier but I feel like a 17 year old male for going on 2 years now. I don't just mean being horny either, I mean the way I think and view things, I also think about sex in one way or another at least once throughout the day, everyday, not to where it is a problem, I just think more about erotic things then I have ever before. My husband is now the one who is turning me down instead of visa versa, he pretty much knows that whenever he wants sex, I am game. I don't care how tired I am or how much I have on my plate, I love sex and would not think of turning him down. I am so not complaining, I am enjoying it and so is my husband. Although, I do have to admit that getting turned down SUCKS A LOT! For the first time in my life I am able to relate to young men and the way their brain works, it's weird.
Anyway, anyone else find this happening at this age or heard of it? It's wonderful, I hope it lasts.
I am wondering if any other women out there have experienced a sexual peak at age of 40? (or 40 something) I know most the information out there tells us that our peaks are earlier but I feel like a 17 year old male for going on 2 years now. I don't just mean being horny either, I mean the way I think and view things, I also think about sex in one way or another at least once throughout the day, everyday, not to where it is a problem, I just think more about erotic things then I have ever before. My husband is now the one who is turning me down instead of visa versa, he pretty much knows that whenever he wants sex, I am game. I don't care how tired I am or how much I have on my plate, I love sex and would not think of turning him down. I am so not complaining, I am enjoying it and so is my husband. Although, I do have to admit that getting turned down SUCKS A LOT! For the first time in my life I am able to relate to young men and the way their brain works, it's weird.
Anyway, anyone else find this happening at this age or heard of it? It's wonderful, I hope it lasts.

It's not unusual at all. By the time you're in your 40's you've really matured in your way of thinking, your family is theoretically ready to be on their own, and life is just better in general (if you're in a good and stable marriage).
There's no reason to think that the "peak" will lessen either as you get older. I've had the best sex I ever had in my 60's! Another thing is we women finally get over thinking it's all about how much we weigh, stretch marks, etc. We don't CARE anymore.....take us the way we are, because this is about as good as it's going to get! Too bad women in their 20's don't get that!
Another thing is that by the time you're in your 40's.....you're probably in peri-menopause, or even menopause, and your estrogen levels start dropping off, and stop masking your testosterone levels (that's why you feel like a teen aged boy, lol).
It's ALL good! Bottom line, another thing younger women don't get.....if you think sexy and feel sexy, you ARE sexy! There's no reason, health permitting, that we can't have a great sex life till we're in our 70's or 80's! The same goes for men. By that time, it becomes quality over quantity....Might not be twice a day, but when it happens it's great, as our "resident" septugenarian Gigi can and does attest to.
Hello rebeckav...
I am experiencing the same situation you have. I have even used your exact words...I feel like a 17yo boy. I'm 48, perimenopausal and delighted with the changes that have occurred. My sex drive has escalated dramatically recently. The estrogen does mask the testosterone levels so the surge you feel is hormonal in nature. Enjoy it...it's one of the few breaks we get at this point.
My DH is having difficulty keeping up with me at present as well. Be careful there...he may feel somewhat inadequate in not being able to keep up with you. Explain to him why it is you are experiencing this surge in libido.
We had a nice thread going over on the Solo board about this topic. Quite obviously, many of us are Soloing...probably like 17yo boys as well. LOL.
Mrs P
Edited 3/19/2007 9:27 am ET by hunt4o
I'm 47 and going thru the same thing! I've been with my man for 8 years as of yesterday and our relationship is what i still say , has to be a dream ! He's 5 years younger then i am and has all he can do to keep up with me sometimes.
Altho , today he came home from work ....we sat on the sofa talking for a few and the next thing i new , we were doing it on the sofa ! He was the one who took the controls this time , which i find sooooo sexy !
I say , WTG !! Just enjoy this wonderful time in yr life - We only live once !!
Hi Hunt,
Happy to be able to give you a favorable report! Kinda like my libido where it is, too... I thought all that stuff about 'nifty fifty' was propaganda, but evidently not... So at 40 something you can enjoy being a horny lady without fear of the other side of the hill. I think the saying "if you don't use it, you lose it" is really true in this case. The more I get, the more I want - poor DH!
Moon