50+--Where did the libido go?
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50+--Where did the libido go?
| Thu, 04-27-2006 - 8:18am |
I'm new to the message boards, but have learned a lot of neat stuff in the past few weeks, just reading through several of the boards.
I am 51 and my husband is 52, We shared great romanace and sex until about 3 months ago. He came home from a routine doctors appointment and I saw a box of Levitra he had laid on the bar. I was immediately upset,(I think at myself for not noticing a problem, and for him, at not talking to me about it). I thought things had been going great with our sex life, except for periodic problems with loosing his erection--which I thought was no big deal-I told him it was ok. I asked him about the medicine and he said the physician had brought it up in their discussion, when he asked if my husband was having any side effects from his current medicines. He told him he was having problems maintaining an erection. (He is 3 years post heart attack (and doing great),hypertension and high cholesterol--all of the major disease categories to cause ED)Just a little history----- He told me he just wants me to be satisfied. After we talked and I got used to the idea,--- it has given us some laughs.
My question is--for any 50+ guys out there or women of 50+ spouses-- I would like to hear how their sex life/libido/desire for sex,etc. has changed since turning the big 50. We were used to making love at least every other or every third night and now I get the feeling he would be happy with once a week. This is such a drastic change? Also from waking up with a hard-on and him saying ---I'd love to feel your mouth on my dick -- to currently--me asking--(when he has one of those early morning hard-ons---How about me sucking on your dick? ---His response is---If you want to??????? I love him dearly and I'm siure he still feels the same, but HELP--My libido has skyrocketed and his has taken a nose dive. Sorry for the longwindedness-----
I am 51 and my husband is 52, We shared great romanace and sex until about 3 months ago. He came home from a routine doctors appointment and I saw a box of Levitra he had laid on the bar. I was immediately upset,(I think at myself for not noticing a problem, and for him, at not talking to me about it). I thought things had been going great with our sex life, except for periodic problems with loosing his erection--which I thought was no big deal-I told him it was ok. I asked him about the medicine and he said the physician had brought it up in their discussion, when he asked if my husband was having any side effects from his current medicines. He told him he was having problems maintaining an erection. (He is 3 years post heart attack (and doing great),hypertension and high cholesterol--all of the major disease categories to cause ED)Just a little history----- He told me he just wants me to be satisfied. After we talked and I got used to the idea,--- it has given us some laughs.
My question is--for any 50+ guys out there or women of 50+ spouses-- I would like to hear how their sex life/libido/desire for sex,etc. has changed since turning the big 50. We were used to making love at least every other or every third night and now I get the feeling he would be happy with once a week. This is such a drastic change? Also from waking up with a hard-on and him saying ---I'd love to feel your mouth on my dick -- to currently--me asking--(when he has one of those early morning hard-ons---How about me sucking on your dick? ---His response is---If you want to??????? I love him dearly and I'm siure he still feels the same, but HELP--My libido has skyrocketed and his has taken a nose dive. Sorry for the longwindedness-----

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Hi heatwave:
I think what you have here is perfectly normal. I'm over 60, and my libido is pretty hot right now. My husband had a very disenterested time a year ago - we had sex four times in a year. Had an emotional affair, did not go all the way, but could have. Decided to go to councelling, dragged him along, and things are a bit better. At least he's trying. But he's over 70. At fifty something, I think give it a try with the Levitra (my dh has some too), and if things improve, he may say he doesn't need it any more. But definitely, libidos for men start to go down, just as we get flying.......
Cassie
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