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| Sun, 10-30-2005 - 7:56am |
Hi. I've known a guy for a few weeks now and we went out on our first official date last night. I knew that I wanted to make out with him at the end of the night and when he did, he practically ambushed me. The previous guy I dated was very slow, relaxed and sensual when we kissed and I loved that. It turned me on more than anything and I long to kiss like that again with a new guy. This new guy, although he is wonderful, just was too rough and rushed with me to get me aroused that much. Do you think it was because it was our first time making out and he was very excited, or do you think this is just the way he is? The previous guy had a extremely laid back personality and this new guy is more dynamic personality-wise so I'm thinking that this is just an extension of his personality. If he doesn't slow down and be more gentle next time we kiss, how can I suggest to him without hurting his feelings that I would like for him to do things the way that I like?
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| Sun, 10-30-2005 - 7:59pm |
Personally I wouldn't really say anything - just take charge. Pull away if he goes at you like a bull at a gate. Slow the whole thing down. You could whisper "slowly" sexily in his ear if neessary. Maybe even put a finger on his lips or against his face to provide some control and quietly "tease" him with your lips. Kiss around his mouth with light kisses, trace your tongue across his lips before kissing him, slowly let your lips touch and brush against one another. He should get the idea pretty quickly but a big part of it depends on his natural "style". He might find fast, hard, "passionate" kissing to be very arousing. In which case, you're going to have to come to some sort of compromise so that both of you get what you enjoy.
| Mon, 10-31-2005 - 9:12am |
I think one of the realities in life is that men need to be taught how to kiss. It is the same with foreplay, most of them go at it far too aggressively from the outset, rather than gently coaxing a woman. I have a feeling that there are far too many women who are prepared to put up with inadequate kissing, but I never have been. Westridge is right, you need to teach the male of the species how to kiss, just as you have to teach them to know how to touch and then how to make love. Elaine
