about stripteasing

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about stripteasing
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Fri, 07-02-2004 - 2:04am

We often see posts from people who are planning a striptease for their partners.

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Registered: 04-08-2004
Fri, 07-02-2004 - 10:15am
Stripteasing is a great way to just set the mood. If my SO were to strip tease for me, I would be completely turned on. Yes, sure I know her body inside out and backwards. Every inch of it has been covered at one time or another. But, it is the act itself, not what lays beneath the clothing that akes it so erotic. The moves, the attitude, the attire just sets the tone along with the music. Stripping is a great way to tell your man that you are so attracted to him, and to see the look in his eyes as you are slowly, seductivly removing articles of clothing, building the anticipation. I wish my SO were here now, as just the thought has made me very randy baby, yeah!!! (Cheesy Austin Powers line, I know. LOL)
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Registered: 06-14-2003
Fri, 07-02-2004 - 11:03am
Out of curiousity, do you ever feel sexier around your DH when wearing certain clothes? Don't you ever wear something (maybe a dress or even a bit of sexy bedroom clothes) that you know turns him on, or because it makes you feel good? I personally have never given a striptease, though it seems an interesting idea, but I can understand the idea behind it. Even if your SO has seen you a million times, seeing you slowly reveal yourself will get him anxious to have you. The anticipation, the wanting to see everything, all of it makes them want you more. It's like wearing a certain outfit that reveals just enough of your legs, maybe your chest, to make the mind wander. It's often said (and I agree) that the human body is much more exciting when there's something left to the imagination, even (as in this case) when you know what's there. I know I sure don't just pull off my clothes casually and lay down in bed. Even without a strip tease, it's always nice to appreciate your partner's body slowly, even if you've seen it a million times.
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Registered: 10-09-2003
Fri, 07-02-2004 - 11:04am
I've done the full-blown strip a few times, just for the fun of it. It's simply putting your body into overdramatic moves to sexy music, while wearing accentuating sexy clothing. Dancing is a basic-instinctual mating technique. ;-) It's a tease(at least for the moment...no touching, just looking). Think about it, men must enjoy the tease, or why else would strip clubs be so popular. They can dream though. That's why it's called the strip-TEASE.

The more common form of strip-tease(and women all over do it subconsciously)is the one I do more often. If I'm going out with friends or we're going out, as I'm getting dressed, I'll prance around half-dressed(if he's in the bedroom). If I'm wearing thigh-high stockings, I put my foot on the bed and ask him to buckle my ankle straps. If he grabs me, I'll tell him I can't now, but later. I'll even give him a little tidbit here and there. It's still stripping-teasing, only he's not aware of it. ;-)

Dancing is a very primal mating-ritual. Add the music and the visuals and you have the settings of the "tease" if only for a few minutes. As I said, I think it works better in the more subtle form, when the anticipation/tease is more drawn out into hours. Certainly you've been to dance-clubs where you see mostly women on the dance floor and a pack of men standing around the dance floor evaluating...or shall I say salivating. ;-) (I believe I just solved the mystery of why most men don't dance. If they're dancing they'll miss the show. tee hee)

Teasing is a very effectual sexual tool.


Edited 7/2/2004 11:09 am ET ET by free_to_choose

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 07-02-2004 - 1:46pm
I agree with what the others have said.

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Fri, 07-02-2004 - 1:57pm
It's just a playful thing to do for your partner. If he's not the type to be all that interested in something like that, then I wouldn't do it. But I believe most men love it! I've done strips for my hubby's birthday and sometimes when we are out of town, I'll surprise him in our suite. Not too often. I also think when you're married and together for awhile, the strips don't feel as thrilling as when the relationship is brand new.
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Registered: 04-13-2004
Fri, 07-02-2004 - 2:11pm
ha-ha jeep! We were watching Austin Powers just last night. It's so funny! Have a great 4th of July weekend and ........ "oh behave yourself baby".
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Registered: 10-09-2003
Fri, 07-02-2004 - 2:13pm
Tiana, I can attest that my DH still gets excited at the sight, feel, smell,or touch of me, no matter what I wear or what I am doing. That truly doesn't fade. It's quite important to me, that he find me just as sexy in sweats or tees, or in my fix-it-upper-grunge clothing, or any of my many faces(and not just the superficial ones). Sexiness is something you exude when you're just being you, not only when you're being playful and having fun being sexy, like stripping, but mostly when you're not. It's a nice place to be when you can turn your DH on full-blast by just talking to him or making some silly face, that's yours and yours alone. All of the rest is simply fluff. In fact, Tiana, you both get sexier to each other as the years pass; it's a myth that sex becomes mundane with time. Nothing is further from the truth.








Edited 7/2/2004 2:21 pm ET ET by free_to_choose

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 07-02-2004 - 3:05pm
Couldn't agree with you more on that Free.

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Registered: 05-21-2004
Fri, 07-02-2004 - 3:26pm
For me- (and in case you didn't see my post 'striptease tips' i've never done it, but sure hope to this weekend provided i don't lose the nerve!!)- but for me it almost borders on role playing too.

i KNOW when my SO and i are out in our business attire and he catches a glimpse at the thigh high's i'm wearing it completely turns him on and practically wants to do it at the restaurant! so i KNOW he'll enjoy this! But not being a provacative dresser or dirty talker really (and frankly i'm a terrible dancer which is why my strip show makes me so nervous!!)- to DO this will be SOO awesome for him as much for me, like for a little while we'll step out of ourselves!

there's also something to being in charge- which i LOVE. But like others have said, on days when (usually because of a laundry shortage) i'm wearing my fancier lingerie at work, under my bland corporate gear, i feel a little charged just knowing what I have on underneath! imagine what they must feel when they see each layer come off one at a time!! woo hoo!!

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Registered: 01-08-2003
Fri, 07-02-2004 - 5:05pm
I agree with the others but I think I can identify with your perspective as well. My husband isn't all that excited by stripteases of any sort. And the sex we have together is wonderful each and every time we are together. So I have a hard time feeling motivated to try things to spice it up when it already seems spicy to me. If he expressed an interest in something, I would be the first one on it. But he doesn't and we seem to be doing great, so why mess with perfection, lol.

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