ACK! I think I experienced FE!
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| Sat, 01-01-2005 - 7:44pm |
Im shocked!
I've been reading this board for some time now and I know that many women have reported that they experience female ejaculation. Not that I didn't believe it but, I expected that this was very rare and would/could only happen to a highly orgasmic women. It seemed to me that many of the women who experience this also have many orgasms in a single session.
Well, although I have orgasms, I do not have them every time and I have only had multiples once that I can remember. So was I ever surprised when I ejaculated. Actually, the ejaculation surprised us both so much that the orgasm and the session ended abruptly.
I know it's unnecessary but, I found it very embarassing and disturbing. I was actually anxious to let him stimulate me again because I was sorta fearful that it may happen again. Dh thinks its great and seems to look forward to making it happen again. He says "Hey! Im proud!" LOL!... Because he is ok with it, I'm quickly getting past it too and I guess...If it happens again, fine, if not that's fine too.
So, for those of you who have experienced this, I would really appreciate your input, support and encouragement. How did you and your partner feel at first? Now? Do you FE all the time or just sometimes? If it is only sometimes, what seems to make the difference? (Im thinking that I was just much more relaxed than usual, kids were gone for the night etc..) Do you/your partner think it is hot... or...not?
And one more thing... How many of you find it extremely frustrating that the medical community does not acknowledge that this is normal? Even Dr. Ruth wrote:
"I have no idea whether some women actually "ejaculate." I know there are women who say they do, and yet I've yet to talk to any gynecologist, and I've asked literally hundreds (I go to their coventions from time to time) and not one has shown me a scientific shred of evidence that such a phenomena exists. Or even said that they believe in this themselves."..."We need another Kinsey to go out and do some testing to find out if this is true or not."
UGH!...When will the medical community finally get with women's health issues and start listening to women?

I have had FE at times but not that often.
As usual, I agree with Tish.
Don't know how long ago these were reported, but for those medical communities that DON'T believe it, just remember the medical communities that DO believe it as well. IN FACT, it was medical communities where these terms and explanations derived from in the first place, LOL!, not people like us from the message boards. ;)
So keep in mind that there ARE those who don't AND those who do believe it.
Now listen, what I DON'T believe is the fact that you should feel embarrassed about this. It really really REALLY is all about both you AND your partner your bodies, thats it. If you KNOW your bodies, than you also KNOW that your bodies simply do different things here and there and that there's nothing to be overwhelmingly embarrassed about. Remember, that ejaculation for YOUR body is no more unnatural than his own, and that is NOT something to be embarrassed about. For many men out there, that is THE sign that they sooooo satisfied you, LOL, so try to envelope all of the factors into your thinking on this and not just the negative embarrassing ones, right?, right. ;)
C h a r a c t e r
above all else
Mr. Para
C H A R A C T E R
Thank you both for your replies. As always you have been very helpful.
Tish, I agree with you that this is something that should be accepted in a healthy sexual relationship regardless of the opinion of the medical community. But, I find it very frustrating, because as the article you supplied the link for indicates:
"Ignorance of the G spot and female ejaculation may have caused untold misery for countless women worldwide."
Ive been reading a little about the history of this and I find it tragic that women have been told that they are peeing and need surgery to correct the "problem" when it is not a problem at all.
It is the feminist in me that becomes infuriated when I know that if men experienced such a "phenomena" the medical community would certianly do the research and support the practice, rather than try and extinguish it by providing unnecessary medical procedures.
And, this is not the only place where MD's are lacking in information about women's health. Did you ever ask a Pediatrician how much time they spent in med school learning about lactation and the benefits of breastfeeding?... not much! But, that is a subject for a different board lol.
anyway, Thanks again for your replies. Para, you are right, there is no need for me to be embarassed and if/when it happens again, I'll try to just allow myself to enjoy it and accept it as natural.