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| Wed, 07-27-2005 - 12:09am |
Wow there are a lot of FWB cases on the board now!!!
Mine took a weird turn this last weekend...and I am so confused right now. (Not that I wasn't before, but....?)
M called Sat night @ 12 am - after nothing for 2 weeks. Granted, I called him once and texted him a couple of times during those 14 days, but heard nothing from him. He apologized, saying he'd been busy at work, and working 3rd shift is killing him...blah blah blah. (I actually do know he has been busy at work - my dad works for the same company and M's department is always behind.) I was at a bday party for a friend - a guy - when he called. I told him where I was and that I would be there in 45 to 60 minutes (it's a 30 min drive). He called 1/2 hr later wanting to know where I was...He expected me to drop everything and run to him. I left the party and drove to his place - where he was asleep on the couch. When he came too, he gave me the 3rd degree about where I was... who I was with...if I'd ever slept with the bday guy...if I'd slept with anyone else in those 2 weeks...did he know anyone I was out with...
We made out on the couch for awhile - just kissing, which has never happened before. He kept telling me how happy he was that I came, that I was there, that I was with him... (All talk to keep me coming back - I hear ya!) We had sex, though it wasn't as mind-blowing as prev sessions, it was still great.
Afterwards, he was expecting a friend to come over, so I quickly got dressed and ready to leave - knowing how paranoid he is about people finding out about us. He wanted to know why I was in such a hurry to leave, if I was mad at him, if he had done something wrong. I told him I thought it was what he wanted. He hugged and kissed me before I walked out the door - also something that he's never done before.
And it all just feels weird!!! I had finally resolved myself to him being nothing but a sex toy for me to enjoy whenever he wants (LOL) but I saw and felt things that didn't feel like a strictly sexual relationship.
Or am I just imagining things???
Blessings -
Liz

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I left because he was expecting a friend, my grandmother wanted me home, and he was paranoid about people finding out. Ok...maybe paranoid was too strong of a word - I was a little confused at the time because of the 'strange' way he was acting.
We're from a small town where people like to gossip. And we're just not ready for people to find out. He and I aren't exactly from the same social backgrounds. He was an athlete, popular, but was in special ed classes, and there were certain expectations of him that he couldn't live up to. He now spends his time almost as a hermit - leaving home only to go to work. I, on the other hand, was the quiet shy fat girl who every parent trusted their child to be out with - but I never did anything but stay home. And I've basically stayed the same way.
Just leaving it all to fate now.
"Afterwards, he was expecting a friend to come over, so I quickly got dressed and ready to leave - knowing how paranoid he is about people finding out about us. He wanted to know why I was in such a hurry to leave, if I was mad at him, if he had done something wrong. I told him I thought it was what he wanted. He hugged and kissed me before I walked out the door - also something that he's never done before."
Direct quote from my first post...Says nothing about him asking me to leave.
Maybe not but "knowing how paranoid he is about people finding out about us," sure says something, doesn't it?
As I said before though...if you're happy with this situation, then I'm happy for you.
Edited 8/3/2005 1:58 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
Like I said before...
"Ok...maybe paranoid was too strong of a word - I was a little confused at the time because of the 'strange' way he was acting.
We're from a small town where people like to gossip. And we're just not ready for people to find out."
OK, if you're happy with the way things are at the moment, then good luck and best wishes.
If you believe in God, just remember that he helps those who help themselves!
Oh, and I'm from a small town too. Chances are that plenty of people already know or suspect something. Doesn'the have next door neighbours? LOL!
Yeah...
I know for a fact that a few people know - like I'm not going to tell my best friend/cousin (who is from the same town) when I get lucky! LOL
But it's not like either one of us is shouting it from the rooftops.
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