advice?

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Registered: 12-15-2005
advice?
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Thu, 12-15-2005 - 3:05pm
I'm not sure if this will help much, but im getting desperate. I've had problems for a while linked with what is suspected to be pelvic inflammatory disease, but i have to wait 3 more months before any treatment (long waiting lists). The thing as a whole has brought about a big change in me, ive always up until recently been quite the addict of sex, but the last few months sex has just been unbearably painful. iT's reaching the point where i just cant talk myself into doing it anymore, and my boyfriends paranoid its because of him. I dont want to lose him, but im just finding it so hard to bring myself to want to do it. I really need help, and with noone to talk to. I was hoping someone here much be able to give me some advice on maybe sexual positions that might be less painful, and is there anyone who suffers from similiar problems?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: wow_pinkcobwebs
Thu, 12-15-2005 - 4:36pm

Have you tried Googling this problem and finding a support board dedicated to the subject? That's what I did when I was diagnosed with Fibromylagia several years ago and I've found great advice and support from total strangers.

And surely, your BF knows that you aren't avoiding sex because of HIM. He surely knows that you wouldn't choose to experience pain with intercourse, if you had a choice. You DO participate in other sexual activities that don't involve penetration, don't you?

I think it's perfectly understandable that you aren't interested in intercourse if it only brings you excruciating pain. But the more knowledge you can gather through research and discussion with your dr., the better.

And experiment with different positions to see what is possible for you. One sufferer may have less pain in one position but that same position may not work for you. Experiment and if you can't manage it, offer him oral or manual stimulation instead.

My prayers go out to you though and I wish you all the best.