Advice on anal sex....

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Registered: 04-03-2004
Advice on anal sex....
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Mon, 11-01-2004 - 7:11pm
Hey! I was posting to find out more about techniques involving anal sex. The 1st time I tried anal sex was HORRIBLE (mainly bc my bf didnt use lubricant... stupid I know). Now I am dating a different guy and we've been together a long time and I've got comfortable enough to where I would like to try it with him. He promise if it hurts at all we will quit, that he will be gentle, and we will definitely use LOTS of lubricant. I know of all the risks.. I know you should not go from anal to vaginal bc of bacterial infections (and also bc i think its gross, my opinion though). I know that we both do NOT have stds. He will wear a condom, and I am on birth control. My main questions would be.. Does the female get any pleasure out of this?? I've heard for some females they have orgasms during anal, and some of my friends said no matter how much lubricant they used it still hurt. Does he need to go slow the entire time or until I am use to the way it feels and when im ready for him to go fast. Is it better to go slow? Any and all advice on making this pleasurable and comfortable for me would be great. Also if you have any tips on how to make it mind blowing for my bf let me know. Thank in advance! : D

S. Strawberry

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 11-01-2004 - 7:31pm

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Fri, 11-05-2004 - 6:21pm
We finally tried it out yesterday and spent a lot of time and patience doing it. He was very careful and it didnt hurt. It felt wierd.. I can't describe the feeling lol. Afterward I was a little sore. But when we tried it he didnt hurt me at all. If it started hurting he would quit and we would just do foreplay, but it was interesting..
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Registered: 10-27-2004
Fri, 11-05-2004 - 10:46pm
HI i read your original post, i cant come during regular vaginal sex, but i always do with anal as long as it is from behind and i have plenty of clit stimulation. usally a toy placed in that area does the trick or a finger can work wonders too. Good luck in your exploration!
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Sun, 11-07-2004 - 6:42pm
Wouldn't you be having a orgasm because you are being stimulated from your clitoris? I haven't ever came through just vaginal stimulation. My bf and I are going to trying finding my g-spot next time we see each other. I read that it might be easier if I lay on my stomach and he rubs it palm down. So we'll see. With the anal sex, I couldn't decide if i liked it or if it was really wierd lol. At times I liked it then other times it just felt wierd, hard to describe..