Advice for HIS first time
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Advice for HIS first time
| Fri, 09-01-2006 - 4:51pm |
i posted this on another board - figured this would be a better place for it:
I'm sure this has been asked before...but, what can a girl do to make sure a guy's first time is memorable, fun, hot, pleasing and above all else, keep him from getting worried or stressed?
i'm 29 years old and have been having sex since i was 16 - met a wonderful man who happens to be a 30 year old virgin and things are starting to get hot and heavy and the topic of sex has come up a few times. We both don't want to rush into anything yet - it's only been a month - but i feel like the time is getting closer.
Any advice??
Thanks!
mindofchyna

I agree with the others. Let nature take it's course. Unless the guy's been living in a cave, virgin or not, I'm sure he has a "general" idea of what he's supposed to do. And unless he's very unusual, it'll be over so fast he won't know what happened!
After THAT happens, then just relax, cuddle, and eventually, he'll probably be ready again....and that's the time you start giving him a few instructions about what he can do to please you.....which you would have to do even if he wasn't a virgin.
I never understood why anyone would worry about making it "hot" or "memorable".....which it will be no matter WHAT you do! He's not going to "see" your lingerie, he's not going to "hear" the music.......he's just going to do what his body tells him to do!
Edited 9/3/2006 8:42 pm ET by rice71
DH of GKK here. DW talked to me about this post and suggested I put my two cents in. So here it goes....
I think there is a lot of pressure on a guy to please his partner. As a result, if he orgasms quickly, he may feel like a failure. And, if he is really a virgin, he will likely orgasm very, very quickly. Remember, he has been thinking about this event for most of his adult life!
If you really want to make his first time a rockin' wild time, the first thing to do is set aside your own physical desire a bit. That will take the pressure off him to "hold out" longer than he is likely to be able to in an effort to please you. Even better, tell him that this first time is all about him and that you want him to orgasm. Even better, tell him how excited you are at the thought of feeling him climax and knowing that you are the cause of it. Tell him that you want it to be totally and completely about him.
If you do it right, he shouldn't be concerned about how he is performing for you or how long he lasts (which, if he is really a virgin, won't be very long).
Taking the performance pressure off is the best thing you can do for him. Also, don't let the sex play end with the first orgasm. Tickle him, tease him, play with him (but not under pressure to get another erection). In fact, don't even go there (his penis) until you notice him starting to get erect again. The less pressure he feels from you to get another erection, the easier it will be for him to get erect again.
Then you will be able to play all night!
Thanks for the advice everyone - i appreciate it!
The first time happened a little sooner than i expected! a few days after I posted my question!!
And i think "we" did awesome! it was quick - but i was so happy to be a part of it, it didn't bother me at all!
and yes...the 2nd time was great! LOL
i'm a very happy camper!