advice needed from both men and women

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Registered: 06-12-2006
advice needed from both men and women
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Wed, 02-07-2007 - 9:27am
First time poster...mostly a lurker. My husband and I have been married for 12 years. We were on vacation and got a little carried away. We went to an adult club together where there were both men and women having a good time. It was a very happening place/lounge....I had wayyyyy too much to drink and I asked the women/dancer hanging around my husband if we could go in a private room (I wanted a cigarette...i don't even smoke...but i was not of a sound mind). Anyway my husband pays the $500 and we enter the room and I throw up...and then I tell the dancer and my husband to please let me lay down. She proceeds to give my husband a lap dance until he comes....he is only allowed to touch and lick her chest. Anyway, afterwards we immediately leave and I am devasted about what happened.....I know i encouraged the entire thing but how could he have an orgasm after his wife just threw up next to him. He said that he had way too much to drink as well and he only did it because i was so insistent on going in a private room. This is so out of character of both of us...but why am I so upset by his actions???? I cannot get it out of my mind. Can guys just turn it on and off with anyone ???? Maybe I am naive, but I just don't understand how he could have come so easily with me drunk as a skunk next to him....any advice welcome.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 6:57pm
well girl im sorry what happend and the hurt ya felt but i agree with some of the other post most men are not like woman needing mental timulation the visical do us just fine but im sure ya hubs loves you and the situation is no ones fault you both were drinking and i must say alot of men who go to strip bars loves the idea having there wives there with them somthing eles they can do together and not mutch difrint than watching good video togeather just less smoke and no cheap perfume smell so i here my wife thinks strip clubs are cheating so not been to one. but i think thing just whent way to far and i dout being swingers are in your futture lol after 12 yrs im sure ya two been thrue some wild times im sure ya work thrue it and lough about it in ya rocking chair days hope thise helpes some

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