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| Thu, 05-10-2007 - 6:22am |
I met this great guy who is so easy to talk to and whom I trust completely. We are friends but we talk about everything including sex. I told DH about him just so DH wouldn't assume the wrong thing. I even told him what this guy and I talk about. DH isn't comfortable completely but he doesn't want to not trust me either.
This guy and I hit it off really well and we are both in a long-term relationship. He has already made an agreement with me that we should never meet and that we are only talking as friends and to learn from one another. I am completely comfortable talking to him but I'm worried that what we talk about may make DH think the wrong thing about this guys and my friendship.
If we are only talking out of innocence and to learn from each other is that a bad thing? Has anyone else gone through something simialar? I don't want to cut ties with this guy and him and I are only friends! I'm not sure what to do...
Advice and tips would be great. Thanks everyone!!

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Oh, it is ANYTHING BUT EASY!
In all your replies to various posters, you've never answered MY question. Did you meet this guy on the internet? If not, where would you have "met" someone that you talk to all the time, but you've never "met" him?
If it IS the internet, then whether you like it or not, you're having an "emotional" affair with this guy. The fact that you've told your husband about it means nothing. The fact that your husband is uncomfortable about it means a LOT! The fact that you "need" this "friendship" says a lot, too.
If you've never "met" the guy, then why are you so worried about "hurting" him? How about hurting your marriage? That's what you need to worry about. This guy is a virtual stranger to you. You know nothing about him except what he tells you.....and that could be a pack of lies. For all you know, he could even be a neighbor!
You may be "wise beyond your years" about many things, but you're being very naive about this. You have nothing to gain from this "friendship", and LOTS to lose.
I'm not trying to be mean, I'm trying to make you stop and think about what's REALLY important in your life, and is this relationship with a stranger worth jeopardizing your REAL relationship?
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