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| Tue, 10-18-2005 - 7:31am |
Hey all,
I have had sex with my BF several times. So far we've tried the missionary, doggie, and me on top, facing towards him; however I haven't yet achieved achieved orgasm through intercourse.
Last night, my BF suggested we try a new position - me sitting on his lap, facing away. His theory is, that the angle might be good for me, plus he could reach around and touch me.
Currently we are in a LDR, and won't be seeing each other for a couple of months, so we'll have to wait before trying it out. I should also add that he is the first guy I've been intimate with. Also, I generally have no trouble coming through manual or oral stimulation.
I was just curious as to whether anyone has tried this position - girl on top, facing away - and if so, what they think of it? Also, is it conducive to orgasm?

First of all, about 80% of women do not orgasm through intercourse alone.
Instead of worrying about what's conducive to orgasm, concentrate on what's conducive to pleasure. You're not in this for orgasms, you're in it for mutual pleasure with someone you care about, and enjoy intimacy with.
As Tish said, intercourse itself is not conducive to orgasms, unless you're getting clitoral stimulation at the same time. Woman on top is one of the best for this, if you do it right. You don't imitate a man by jumping up and down.....you move your hips and pelvis slowly and sensuously in a circular grinding motion.
WOT doesn't "work" for some guys, but there's no rule that you can't take turns with whatever works for both of you. Don't make it a quest for orgasms, make it a time for pleasure for both of you.
Doesn't work for me or my DH. Sometimes, it can cause pain because the angle is wrong for both of us.
I would suggest just manually stimulating yourself in whatever position you're using. Most women require manual stimulation during intercourse to orgasm though, so that's not unusual at all.
I enjoy this position, but you'll end up doing most of the work. I find that the guy tends to get off well before I do because my grinding drives him over the edge really quickly! But that doesn't bother me because I get a kick out of driving my guy crazy. You can do the same sort of thing lying on your sides too.
Don't worry about whether you're having an orgasm or not, just enjoy what's happening between the two of you. The more you think about having an orgasm, the less likely it is to happen.
Janet