Advice for Sex with a "LARGE" guy??

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Advice for Sex with a "LARGE" guy??
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Mon, 07-16-2007 - 11:40am
I recently started dating this guy who is amazing and very WELL endowed. To the point where I think he may be hitting my cervix?? it's slightly painful/pressure like feeling. Me on top of him is pretty much impossible b/c of the penetration. I've never ran into this problem before! Any ideas of what i can suggest to him to make it more enjoyable for me??
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Registered: 04-13-2007
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 3:32pm
The cervix thing is a big problem. Just when it feels _awesome_, it's like owwwwwwwww. Hard to relax after that happens. Bf has a large one and I'm a tiny person, coupled with the fact that he likes rather extreme penetration, with my thighs up against my chest and calves basically on his shoulders. Actually, I don't know if it's the cervix, it's just something in the very extreme back -- it's pathetic but I'm a bit clueless as to the exact anatomy. It doesn't hit it every time. But we both like it pretty hard and once in a while something just gets in the way of something else.
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Registered: 07-07-2007
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 4:19pm

When I was a depressed teenager, the only thing I liked about myself was how long and thick I was, 8.5" long, 6.5" around-hey I AM a guy and you expect me to brag, right?!.

I've luckily matured into a lover who loves pleasing her so much I sometimes forget about myself.

I can not remember a single time that when I would start to slide into her that she would quickly ask me to stop for a minute so that she could relax to accommodate my size. Once she was comfortable, then I could slowly enter her. Sometimes both of us liked me to go as fast and deep as possible. No woman has ever said afterwards that she felt sore or that I was too big for her. Sometimes, depending on position, I could feel the tip of my penis hit the tip of her cervix. Neither of us felt pain, it was more of a surprise that didn't feel good enough to do on purpose.

Only one time was the experience exceptional. I was lying on my side and suddenly felt what I'd never felt before or since-- the head of my penis sliding along the side wall of her cervix. That must have been the deepest I'd ever been. The feeling was so intense I came sooner than I'd have liked, but I nearly exploded!

After all that, my suggestion for you is lubrication, playfulness, and you control speed and depth until it feels OK for you! Enjoy!

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Registered: 08-16-2006
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 4:35pm
Make him aware that you are the Captian, he's the First Mate. Make him arouse you more, make him enter more slowly and never allow him to penetrate you when: (1) you are not ready for it, (2) too quickly-make penetration take several minutes to accomplish (3) too deeply. When you ( the Captian ) are more comfortable, you can direct him however you see fit. If he's going to be with you, enjoying your body then he needs to learn how do everything without any pain involved for you.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 5:42pm

Welcome to the board banditi95.

There are several positions that will allow for penetration that isn't as deep. Try lying on your side or missionary (but don't raise you legs up to his chest). Making sure you are properly aroused, well lubricated and not expecting pain will go a long way to increasing your pleasure also.

Also, he can control how deeply he penetrates you as well as how hard he thrusts. Let him know that you're finding things a little too painful, and the two of you can then work together to find what works best.



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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 5:51pm
Welcome to the board thepleasurer. Thanks for joining in and sharing your experience.


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Registered: 12-20-2004
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 6:07pm
Most men 7" or longer can easily reach most womens cervix. Even if it has pulled up and out of the way, certain postions or angles can still hit it. He needs to be conscious of how deep he can go without causing you pain and then not go any deeper.How long would you guess he is?
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Registered: 05-13-2007
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 8:46pm
He could be hitting one of your ovaries. They are just as sensitive as testicles, and a couple times after mine was hit I actually felt nauseous. I don't know if I believe it, but my doctor told me that there are very few nerve endings in the cervix. I know my guy rubs against mine during intercourse, and there is no pain; however, when I was in labor, and the nurse was checking my dilation with her long fingernails, I most certainly felt pain!


Edited 7/16/2007 8:51 pm ET by aubry_ann
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Tue, 07-17-2007 - 3:38am

Avoid positions that allow deep penetration.

Tell him to control himself and not thrust so deeply.

Avoid positions that allow deeper penetration a few days before and a few days after your period if you are not on hormonal birth control. Around ovulation your cervix pulls up, so he is less likely to hit your cervix. If you are on hormonal birth control like the pill, that prevents ovulation, ignore this piece of advice.

 


 


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Registered: 04-13-2007
Tue, 07-17-2007 - 11:09am
I think this must be right. I did a Google search and learned about the anatomy, then I verified it "by hand" lol. My cervix feels like a half-golfball-sized round thing, on the upper part towards my stomach. It's, what, maybe 4-5" in there based on what I can feel with my fingers? His penis must be sliding past there, and hitting something else -- so I don't think it is the cervix. I'm going to ask my gyno about all this next time I go. I honestly never thought much about it.