Advice for someone not so experienced!

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Registered: 05-06-2005
Advice for someone not so experienced!
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Fri, 05-06-2005 - 5:14pm
I am not that experienced with guys. I haven't had sex but have made out and stuff with guys but nothing major. The guy I am dating now is alot more experienced that me and he wants to do more things and I do to but feel werid because I haven't done anything and don't want him to think I am werid because I don't know what I am doing. So what are some good tips for just doing basic foreplay stuff? Thanks in advance!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 6:48pm

Just relax, be yourself, respond to good feelings, ask questions, ask for more or less of what he's doing, ask him to show you what he likes and don't try and pretend to be more experienced than you are! IMO, honesty is always the best policy.

We all start out at square one sexually, so why feel ashamed or weird about that? Whether this is your first experience or your 1000th, it will be a new one with each new partner!

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 7:03pm

One of the secrets to having a good relationship (or life!) is to not bullsh*t. If you don't know, then say so.

I'd be far more ashamed of trying to bullsh*t my way out of a situation than I would be for confessing that I don't know something.

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 7:22pm
I agree with the others. Just be yourself--whatever that is. Try not to over-think while you're in there... ;-) Listen to your body and your desires and follow them. He'll be doing the same. There's nothing to fear or feel weird about. Sex is an expression...an expression of your feelings. Just go with them, they won't steer you wrong. Good luck.
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 11:15pm

He will LOVE it if you are not experienced, because he'll know you were not with many guys, and that will be something special to him for sure.

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Sat, 05-07-2005 - 12:49am

There is nothing weird about being inexperienced. Everyone starts out that way, and no one has a "manual" on what to do. If you're ready to do more, your instincts will lead the way, and your b/f will also.

Also, remember that "experience" with many women doesn't always mean that he knows what he's doing either. Numbers don't count, knowledge does. There are men that have "been with" hundreds of women, and they don't have a clue about women's bodies, or how to give a woman pleasure.

If you're in a good relationship, and the right feelings are there, you'll figure out what to do when you start doing it.