Afraid to sleep with new boyfriend

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Registered: 11-15-2004
Afraid to sleep with new boyfriend
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Sat, 03-26-2005 - 4:59pm

I just started seeing a new guy a couple of weeks ago, and he's really sweet. I'm trying to take things slow with him because I don't want a relationship right now that is too serious, so I haven't slept with him yet. (There are a lot of reasons - the semester ends in a couple of months and we live in different states, etc.) We go to a very conservative college, and they have a lot of rules, so it's really hard to find any alone time anyway. It's kind of annoying, but I don't mind because it keeps things pretty light and non-sexual for the most part. I think that eventually I would like to sleep with him, though, like if I bring him home with me for a weekend or something.

I've slept with my share of guys before, but the difference is that my new guy is black and all the other guys I have been with were white. I've heard that black guys generally have really huge penises, and I'm afraid that it will really hurt. I don't mean to sound childish or anything, and I know that I shouldn't be so worried about this.

Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? Does anyone have any advice for me?

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Sat, 03-26-2005 - 5:45pm
If you are

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Sat, 03-26-2005 - 5:54pm
I'm gonna venture a guess here, but to me it sounds like you are still not quite comfortable being in an interracial relationship? Any guy you meet could potentially have a large penis. You don't even know yet if this guy does. The worry of a large penis didn't stop you with any previous partners, so I am wondering if you are using this issue as a way to keep your distance with him until you sort your feelings out?
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Sat, 03-26-2005 - 6:02pm

Thanks for the advice! I guess I'm just worried that I'll be so nervous I won't be able to get wet enough. I'm glad that I'm waiting to get to know him better before I sleep with him, though. I keep reminding myself that things aren't that serious, and that if I don't feel comfortable with him, I don't ever have to take the relationship to the next level and sleep with him.

You made a good point about the babies. A baby's head has to be bigger and wider than his penis no matter how big he is, right?

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Sat, 03-26-2005 - 6:08pm
You could be right, but I'm not really sure. I'm really attracted to him, and I really want to have sex with him. He's hinted at having a large penis, though, and I think that's why I'm nervous. I mean, if a guy actually says that he has a really large penis, then he must, right?
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Sat, 03-26-2005 - 6:19pm

Penis's come in all sizes no matter what color skin the man has.


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Sat, 03-26-2005 - 6:32pm
I laughed when I read what you said about the baby's head being bigger and how you wouldn't want to see a seven pound penis. I really needed a good laugh. I'm sitting around the house alone watching scary things on television. *haha*
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Sat, 03-26-2005 - 6:33pm

If something is hurting in any way, then you let him know.


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Sat, 03-26-2005 - 6:36pm
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Sat, 03-26-2005 - 6:43pm
Thanks for the link to the other message board. I'll go check it out in a bit.
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Sat, 03-26-2005 - 9:51pm

>>I mean, if a guy actually says that he has a really large penis, then he must, right?<<

Maybe, but men tend to overestimate. I hope you didn't think my post was a criticism. I myself am Mexican and my husband is white and we've had our fair share of comments and funny/nasty looks. You need to take more into consideration than you would the average relationship.

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