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| Tue, 07-31-2007 - 6:12pm |
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months and we have recently decided that we are ready to have sex. Our talk got me thinking...How does a relationship change after a couple has sex? I have heard that things change, but what?


It depends on the couple. It brings some closer together. In some instances, it takes attention away from problems in the relationship......
In some cases, the focus becomes sex, and nothing but. Forget going out, forget being with friends....just sex.
If you both understand what you're doing, you're emotionally and physically prepared, and have DISCUSSED things, like what kind of birth control you'll use......will you use condoms (a good idea if one or the other of you isn't a virgin......you could both have STD's that have no symptoms, and could give it to the other!) What to do in case of an accidental pregnancy. How much either of you actually knows about sex...which is a lot more than "intercourse"....if you're both on the same page with all these things and realize that there's more to a relationship than just sex...then it should be a good thing.
Welcome to the board stitch_2007.
For most people, sex strengthens the bond between them. Since you have discussed moving your relationship to this next level, it sounds like you do have a good relationship -- that you aren't just jumping into this.
As Sakura said, some people use sex to mask problems within a relationship. In that case, the problems usually resurface as bigger problems down the road.
Since you are new to sex, you might want to visit the website www.the-clitoris.com. You will both learn a lot there about having a satisfying sexual relationship. Sharing yourselves with each other in this way should be a positive experience for both of you.
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