Age differences - men/women

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Age differences - men/women
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Sun, 12-19-2004 - 9:13am

The topic below of dating made me think of a discussion I heard this week on the talk radio station I listen to. The DJs were talking about May/December romances and the woman (who is in her 40s) said she couldn't figure out why a guy in his 20s would be attracted to a woman in her 40s. I didn't have my cell phone on me but I wished I had as I had an answer.

IMO, while it may be a 'mothering' issue for a few, I can totally see how a young man could find a much older woman attractive. I think it's the confidence that most women gain with maturity. They are comfortable with themselves. They don't have to seek assurance. Lumps, bumps and scars aren't an issue, they know their bodies aren't perfect and yet they're totally happy with themselves. They know what they want and how to get it, and aren't afraid to ask for it. They don't have to seek reassurance that their tummy isn't fat, because hey, they know they have one and are perfectly ok with it. Lumps, bumps and scars aren't an issue.

What I have a hard time getting is, other than the ego thing, why a 45 year old woman would be attracted to a 25 year old guy! There are some young men out there that I think are very very good looking, but they are so YOUNG (lol). I look at my son's friends (18-20 range) and while I see that they are good looking and some are only going to get better, they seem like kids to me. Give me a man in his 40s or 50s any day!

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Sun, 12-19-2004 - 9:24am

As I've stated so many times before, I've always been attracted to the slightly-moderately older than myself. My company even during my teens mostly consisted of playing cards with while listening to 40s music and all. MAN I miss those days, LOL!

Anyway, I think its mostly a maturity thing myself. There truly is nothing more attractive than someone with so much maturity and selflessness. You just know your time with them is going to be so comfortable and enjoyable compared to being with someone who is all about and who cannot control themselves.

I remember a young lady bragging to a group of us of this amazing guy she's been with for a couple of weeks, just to find out that he was 27 years older, LOL!

When it comes to the ladies finding the younger men attractive, or even "acceptable" for that matter, the most common thing I've heard/read was the feeling of being young again and the sex was so much more fulfilling and the control the control the control OMGosh the control. Hmmm...don't get me going about my EX-stepmother, RAOFL!!!

Anyway, it does get interesting, I'll admit that. :)

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Sun, 12-19-2004 - 9:30am

When I was in my 40's...I would have guys in their 20's "hitting" on me occasionally, and like you, all I could think was "EEEEWWWW, I have sons your age!" I couldn't imagine a relationship with them. I would always think about eventually telling them to clean their room, or pick up their clothes!

I had an uncle who married a woman about 15 years older than he was. When they got married, they were a great looking couple. But, as time went by, he "aged" very gracefully, and she didn't. Eventually, people took them for Mother and Son. It didn't seem to bother them, because I think it was a true "love match", but they sure looked strange together!

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Sun, 12-19-2004 - 10:35am

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Sun, 12-19-2004 - 12:57pm

"I would always think about eventually telling them to clean their room, or pick up their clothes!"

ROFLMAO!!! I'm with ya on that one.

I don't wish to offend any young men we might have here - I see a LOT of young men that are good looking - if I were 25 I could see myself being attracted to them - and have the potential in them to become really fine men. Just yesterday, a couple of the guys that were waiting on me at GameStop fit that mold. (I kept thinking to myself 'He can't really be...almost flirting... with me, can he? He's just a good salesman, lol') But he was nice and funny and attentive to me and I could see his appeal to a 20ish woman. I thought he was cute as all get-out. But not in *that* way. And there is a drug rep that comes to our office twice a month. He is very good looking, VERY personable and I just adore him - as an associate.

Of course...*sigh* I'm still telling my 41 year old DH to pick up his clothes...